Fence sitting one OAD, help!
As the title says, I’ve been sitting on the fence whether to be OAD since my first child was born. Then after couple years I wanted to have a second but it wasn’t possible due to living in a very high cost to living area and not being able to get daycare for 3 years. I’ve wanted a second for a while now but now that I’ve had time to really think about it I feel like it’s not the best choice. I would love to have another and have a two kid family but we have a huge shortage of resources, no daycare so that means a second would need a nanny which is financially very difficult. There is not enough childcare where I live. Also have no family support or help due to no grandparents nearby/no interest from them. We need a bigger place but housing is so expensive so that makes it challenging also. Maybe it wouldn’t be fair to my first to have a second since we have no real resources and it would be difficult financially. I just fear I will regret it later. I also don’t have a relationship with my sibling and neither does my partner so I know it’s not a guarantee at all that they would even like each other. Has anyone else been fence sitting for a while? Or recently made a decision? I need some advice.