Just thoughts
I am a „late blommer something“, meaning, I first felt attraction towards a women at 45. I‘ve been with one woman since, for 2 months, I am 47 now. Also since the one woman I haven‘t been with any men and the thought of having sex with a man is boring. But I still have no need to define my sexuality. Why do we care about those definitions so much?
Another thing is… I don‘t feel like going to lesbian spaces (bars etc) because I feel that amongst many queer people,,being queer became their whole identity and that is the most important thing about them. Life for me was never about sex (love sex, but when I don‘t have it it‘s not a problem). Also, I am at a point in my life where I don‘t need to be in a relationship. What i would like is a friendship, with sex, but without the need to own someone (and I am not talking poly, I am “programmed“ for monogamy).
Anyway don‘t know why I am weiting all this. Maybe because I need to hear that some of you feel the same way. And when I meet women from the Apps, most of them really are looking dor relationships.
So, anyone else feel like I do?