Aro but desire domestic stuff & people
I don't know if it's common or if there's a word for a desire for domestic relation or partner? I enjoy the idea of a married life as long as it remains at home. So no PDA, not appearing to people as a unit, existing outside each other's lives but they're still an extension of it. I don't see kissing and the like as romantic actions per say but I enjoy it sensually as long as the other is someone I trust and feel safe with.
A lot of my attraction (generally, idk what it is specifically) also has to do with how domestic someone is. Like how they appear naturally without makeup and how comfortable we are in each other's spaces. Essentially roommates without any of the cons seems great. And it doesn't feel the same as best friends rooming together due to how intimate it still is, both emotionally and physically.
I know aros can have this arrangement, but I've not seen discussion about attraction on the grounds of sharing a domestic life.
Would love shared experiences and how people tackle this, because every time I try to explain it, it gets regarded as too romantic by aros or too aromantic by alloromantics 😭