Am I the Asshole? MIL Edition
About 2 weeks ago, my MIL made a negative comment about me and another of her DIL’s in a family group that she didn’t realize we were included in. After defending myself in a very gentle way, she responded with a 4 paragraph text that was “meant for everyone” but very obviously aimed at me which I did not respond to.
Since then things have been….tense.
My husband refuses to say anything to her about it. She continues to come to our child’s sports games every week. Which is fine, I’m glad our children have grandparents that are supportive of their interests.
My issue is that she will not have a conversation with me about what happened. In fact, she won’t talk to me at all. I haven’t attempted a one on one convo with her either but don’t feel that I should be the one to initiate the convo.
At the last game, she not only ignored me and gave me the cold shoulder but was rude to my mom when my mom tried to chat with her which lead to my mom having hurt feelings and asking me if she had done anything wrong. This really enraged me.
Now I am expected to spend Halloween with my kids there as well as Thanksgiving and I just don’t want to! It’s uncomfortable, tense, and I still believe I deserve at least a convo if not an apology. Again, my husband refuses to get in the middle and wants us all to go on ignoring it and pretending like nothing happened bc that’s how he was taught to handle conflict.
Am I the asshole for wanting my husband to confront her and wanting to have a conversation with her so that we can move past this? Should I just be letting this go?