He says he found “the one” because she hates kids and people too
For some context, this is a long-time online friend of mine who used to have feelings for me in the past and even tried reconnecting romantically again around November last year. Since I’m in a relationship, I slowly distanced myself and stopped talking much to him after that.
Recently I decided to check in on him just casually to see how he was doing, and the conversation somehow turned into this. The more he talked, the more uncomfortable and unsettled I started feeling.
Myself: “What else ?”
Myself: “No new gf ? I thought you’d have found one by now”
Friend: “I do actually but we already talked about her months ago 😅”
Myself: “Ooh i dont think u did”
Myself: “Who is she !”
Friend: “Her name is ___ :)”
Myself: “She is your gf ?”
Friend: “More like fiancee”
Myself: “Wtf ok”
Friend: “Unofficially”
Myself: “Is she on a temporary visa ?”
Friend: “Exactly”
Myself: “Like a student?”
Friend: “K1”
Myself: “Lol ok”
Friend: “She is currently in kolkata”
Friend: “But lives in dubai”
Myself: “Oh thats why you went to Dubai”
Friend: “Exactly”
Friend: “Id never visit a city otherwise lol”
Myself: “Ok ok”
Myself: “So you going to get married soon ?”
Friend: “*on purpose”
Friend: “Yeah hopefully this year”
Friend: “If not early next year”
Myself: “So she moves to US after that ?”
Myself: “And gets citizenship i guess”
Myself: “Anyway congratulations 😅”
Friend: “Yeah”
Friend: “Well first usa then that”
Myself: “Then why would you move to Europe in this case ?”
Friend: “Thank you :) it was very VERY difficult finding a childfree indian woman”
Myself: “I hope you found what you wanted and not get scammed again!”
Friend: “So i give literally everything i possibly can”
Friend: “I found her not the other way around”
Myself: “Idk it’s just surprising that you could able to find someone this quick and things are moving this fast. Just be careful and safe out there! 😊”
Friend: “We decided this 2 weeks after we met”
Myself: “Too quick man”
Friend: “Not at all”
Friend: “It’s fantastic”
Myself: “I don’t have a good feeling about this. But whatever it’s your life.”
Friend: “It’s either you do it or your wasting time”
Friend: “I chose to do it and not waste time”
Friend: “She isn’t easy but ill take it and am happy”
Myself: “Wasting time on what exactly”
Myself: “I don’t wanna argue with you here on this”
Friend: “You either commit or find someone who will”
Friend: “Thats how i see it”
Myself: “Just take care and be safe. D”
Friend: “Thanks!”
Myself: “Hmm 🤨 just because someone said they can marry you in two weeks doesn’t mean they are fully ready for a commitment”
Myself: “Please don’t make it look like everybody else are doing it wrong”
Friend: “You girls do that in india all the time lol”
Myself: “Nope”
Myself: “So stereotypical”
Friend: “Its factual”
Friend: “I have seen it happen”
Myself: “Just talk to more Indian people you know”
Friend: “I have”
Friend: “I talked to like 60 different woman”
Myself: “That happened only in my parents era”
Friend: “And like 5 guys”
Myself: “Not enough thought. Everybody lie for their benefits”
Friend: “Good friends too”
Myself: “Uhm i dont know that”
Friend: “You are being too pessimistic”
Myself: “Im being realistic”
Myself: “You don’t wanna agree with me and that’s fine”
Friend: “Most of the indian girls mentioned marriage on the first date”
Friend: “Like 85%”
Myself: “Yeah if the relationship works out”
Friend: “Yeah exactly and it’s within a year always”
Myself: “I dont think they are just going on one date or talking to one guy and decide it immediately”
Myself: “Uhm i dont think so”
Friend: “I mean we already have a future planned and it’s very exciting”
Myself: “None of my friends or myself or the circle i know decided everything within a year”
Myself: “We do seriously date someone if we like and want to get married. But nobody ever I know even back home or In the US decided it in weeks.”
Friend: “X almost did with me”
Friend: “Y almost decided that”
Friend: “And Z did”
Myself: “Especially in this modern dating culture”
Friend: “Thats 3 right there”
Friend: “Well you also don’t live a childfree life like we do”
Myself: “Just three women ? They mentioned that they want to get married if they date you ?”
Friend: “This woman HATES kids and i got so excited i knew she was the one”
Myself: “That’s disgusting sorry”
Friend: “I love it!”
Friend: “Yes they discussed a future and how it will work and they all said if it works then we would plan a marriage”
Myself: “Why someone should hate kids honestly. In EU most people don’t make kids due to what? They don’t like the responsibility or they don’t want it at all due to economical situation and stuff. Who says that they hate kids!! You don’t have to hate to prove something”
Friend: “I also hate kids remember?”
Myself: “Not in two weeks”
Myself: “You don’t have to hate. Hate is not good 😊 you don’t have to like them yeah.”
Friend: “I flat out hate them”
Myself: “Cruel”
Friend: “We both agreed that when they’re in our presence we have to leave”
Friend: “We both cannot stand their laughs their cries their talking”
Friend: “Their neediness”
Friend: “I loved hearing that it was very attractive”
Myself: “You sound weird. That’s hardcore hatred. I wish someone hated you when you were a kid”
Friend: “Many did!”
Myself: “What about you?”
Friend: “I hated being a kid too lol”
Friend: “I also hated kids around me”
Friend: “I was always with the adults”
Myself: “You make me upset honestly. You can decide to not have kids but what you describing about hating them is cruel and not nice.”
Friend: “My family also doesn’t like kids”
Friend: “It’s very normal for us”
Friend: “I wont even look at them”
Friend: “I am the most extreme in my family which is why i love the person i chose and why i am happy with her”
Friend: “Dogs and cats i love they’re cute”
Friend: “But them noooo way in hell”
Friend: “Now you can see why i chose her so fast”
Friend: “No one thinks like her she is unique and i love it.. i know for sure there will never be a child in my house and that fills me with immense peace and happiness”
Myself: “If you believe in hell that’s where you belong for talking like this. You can’t stop the cycle of life. And i really think you are getting into scam 2.0. I wish you good luck with your life. I’m not gonna take back what i just said. 😆”
Friend: “Even if that means ill never have a thick girl in my life.. at least i won’t have children near me”
Friend: “I don’t believe in hell”
Friend: “Don’t have too you don’t know her”
Friend: “So you can’t say anything about her..”
Myself: “I know indian women more than you do.”
Friend: “It’s an invalid opinion”
Myself: “Just go on with it”
Myself: “Whatever”
Friend: “Yes but i know her more than you”
Myself: “True”
Friend: “And she is not 800 million”
Friend: “She is very different”
Myself: “What is 800 million”
Myself: “You think everybody in this world are the same ?”
Myself: “Other than your lover who is unique?”
Friend: “She is not family oriented
She doesn’t believe in divorce
She doesn’t like kids
She doesn’t even want to move to usa it’s only because i am here
She loves travel and hiking and we make fun of others who just take a picture in front of a view and leave
She is highly intelligent which is exactly what i wanted
She hates tattoos
She hates people
Her dream is like mine a house in the mountains where we never see anyone”
Friend: “It’s pure perfection”
Friend: “And the best part is i finally can say i got my indian woman.. it took long enough”
Myself: “Bro you sound dumb sorry”
Friend: “But i am not”
Friend: “I am highly intelligent :)”
Myself: “You think the nationality has something to do with here”
Friend: “Nope its what i wanted”
Friend: “I wanted a brown girl and that was it i got it”