45F, just came out to my teen kids
I’m divorced with two kids but until much later in life—like five years ago tops—I didn’t know that asexuality was a thing, so I spent a good part of my adult life pretending and feeling defective.
Now my daughter came to ask if I ever liked a girl. I said kinda but it’s complicated, she asked questions, and so I said I was asexual so me ‘liking’ people is different.
Then I went down to the kitchen and it hit me that this was the first time I told anyone irl. So I told my daughter this, too, and she laughed and clapped and hugged me like a small coming out party :) and then she told me she was bisexual. Which I’d suspected but I returned the ‘celebration’ obviously and I was very happy she felt she could tell me.
And then my son came and asked what the noise was about, and when we told him he looked mildly confused and asked what asexual meant, and when I told him he hugged me too and said good for you.
And then they started to bicker like proper siblings, and I’m so stupidly happy that kids these days know better than we do how to treat situations like this and how to just take them in stride.
I have no one to share this with so I thought this might be the right place.