So, what DO Feysand stans like about Feysand?
This is mostly a peace talk, alright. The attempt at connection of a Tamlin stan who hates both characters.
I wanted to ask this question, very innocently and non-aggressively, because I'm curious as to why Feysand stans enjoy Feyre and Rhysand so much.
Just to be clear, Rhysand and Tamlin are abusive when judged by real-life morals. Still, I'm a Tamlin stan through and through. I love his blond head and can always find some motives behind his actions, even if these actions hurt Feyre's feelings, which is why I'm always forgiving of him. But that's not the topic here.
For the life of me, I cannot find Rhys's motives at all. He's a pure enigma. Either he's morally good, or morally grey. But if he truly is morally grey, then I don't understand why the narrative constantly justifies his every bad action with good reasons. That's not how a morally grey character works.
There's a lot of other things I don't understand, like...
Why Rhys drugged, sexually touched, and degraded Feyre UTM to "help her forget the nightly horrors," even though his actions clearly weakened her. Why he twisted her broken arm, even though he could've healed it without ever demanding any bargain in return. Why he never apologized for the pain he inflicted on her. Why he didn't do anything against Amarantha for all these years.
Why Feyre had to prove to him she was a powerful Fae and a good mate by taking back his mother's ring in a dangerous test. Why Rhys didn't give Tarquin any choice and straight-up decided to steal from him, or why he didn't go with Feyre who almost drowned for his schemes, yet he never expressed worry. Why he hid the truth of Feyre being his mate, letting her choices be influenced by the work of a magical pull she wasn't aware of.
Why he barged in Spring Court like he owned the place. Why he nagged Tamlin who was minding his own business.
Why he hid the truth about Feyre's pregnancy just because he was panicking or didn't want to put her under stress, even though his first thought should've been about her basic right to know the risks.
Why he only protects Velaris and doesn't make life better for the CoN or the Illyrians, even though he has mind-controlling powers that could solve every problem in less than 1 year. Why Feyre never even mind-read Tamlin's intentions before sabotaging Spring Court.
With the current state of the fandom, there's not much room to ask these questions without getting my head ripped off. But I'll gladly listen to any Feysand stan explain why these two should be happy together.