Moving in with my fiancé and her family
I (29M) am getting married in 2 months to my fiancé (31F). Her father died a couple of years ago and she currently lives in a house that she bought with her parents a year before her father died. Her brother (28M) lives at the house too, but from my understanding has contributed very little financially since he’s been there.
My fiancé feels very uncomfortable separating from her mother after we get married, but the plan has always been for her brother to move out before we get married.
The other day, while speaking to someone else about our plans, she mentions that her brother may not be out by the time I’m supposed to move in. This was the first that I had heard of this. He’s been pretty financially unstable over the years, but just started working a stable job about 6 months ago. Again, she tells me that he doesn’t pay her rent, and he’s been driving his mom’s car this entire time.
For added context, I highly doubt any solution involving us living somewhere else is gonna fly. My fiancé’s mother is very dependent on her, which I accept. But living with the mom and brother would be too much.
The fact that she didn’t think to discuss it with me is its own issue, but I’m seriously considering telling her that I’m not moving in at least until I have proof that he’s approved for an apartment. We’ve been engaged for just over a year, so he’s had plenty of notice.
Any advice on how to go about this?
TL;DR
I’m supposed to move in soon with my fiancé and her mom, but her brother hasn’t moved out yet.