u/Minimum_Split_3156

Hi guys, I’m hoping to get some advice! I’ve recently started a new relationship with my lovely girlfriend. She struggles with OCD which mainly manifests in her feeling like she has to confess things constantly.

From what I understand, she feels like she always has to confess stuff she’s done or said as she feels like if she doesn’t then she is a bad person or she feels like she’s lying. She says it mostly stems from feeling like her ex was judging her all the time and the fact that her ex seemed to think that their opinions were always the most morally correct. She says she also use to lie a lot so that feeds into it.

I was just hoping for some advice on the best way to handle this. Naturally I would like to reassure her but I’m thinking maybe this isn’t the best thing to do? How do I handle situations where she feels like she needs to confess or she does end up confessing? What will make it better for her in the long run?

Ok so tomorrow is finally the night that I’ll be using a strap on with my girlfriend ahhhhh!! We have great sex but haven’t been together too long so are still figuring each other out sexually.

I do really want to become good at strapping but I’m very inexperienced. I used one when I was in my early 20s (I’m 28 now) a couple times using boxers and it just wasn’t a vibe. This time I have a harness but I have dyspraxia so I’m pretty sure I’ll struggle to put it on (I’m going to try tonight but don’t really have much faith).

I’m also fairly overweight and unfit which worries me that I won’t have enough stamina and struggle to keep up. Every time I try and talk to people about it they tell me how much of a workout it is and how much effort it is.

I have a bit of a weird relationship with sex and also body confidence issues so I’m generally just quite nervous. Any tips and genuine reassurance would be appreciated, thank you lesbians. :)