How to build your self worth and confidence and not let outside noise affect your mood?
Hi! I am 23M and I am seeking advice on how to build my self-worth and confidence. I have my life together, great career, a job that I love, good friends, go to the gym everyday and have a good physique, and just got into a relationship too.
On paper, it seems that I shouldn't be having low confidence issues but my mood swings really much due to outside influence. Most of them is from my relationship or friends. For example, my friend cancels last minute on plans, that could make me really depressed and I think I'm worthless. Or, if my girlfriend doesn't respond for a long time, I think she doesn't care about me. But when I get good news, I feel really good and confident.
I lost my father at a young age and my parent's relationship was not great so I think maybe childhood trauma might cause this? Also, I used to be not confident all day due to lack of friends, career success, and romantic success, and body image. But I took time to improve these areas and I thought that these anxious and feelings of worthlessness wouldn't come back but they are, due to outside triggers.
Does anyone have any advice on how to repair this? I just want my mental health to not depend on other people and that when things with others don't go well, I can still recognize my own value and go about my day.
Thanks in advance!