u/Mission_Rest1892

I am supposed to ask questions in seminars, talks etc. but I don’t know what to ask. Sometimes I just don’t know the subject enough to ask anything and sometimes I know enough but the presentation answers all my questions. Sometimes (maybe 25% of the time) I have a question but I think it’s too dumb so I don’t because honestly when someone asks a dumb question I go “are you serious” with them so I don’t want anyone to think that about me. So how do I find a legit real proper reasonable question to ask? Should add that I’m an introvert and very shy and hate public speaking.

Pretty much the title. At the end of the documentary there was a part that they showed a lot of people online but particularly on TikTok supporting her to the point of getting bracelets. And I just cannot wrap my head around it. Why do you want her out so bad? Like if you don’t believe the evidence do you have any other explanation for those? Because too pretty for prison is truly a sickening reason and I’d like to think these people have some other reasoning.

Hello again,
I’m here at another desperate moment. I wrote here a few months ago about the problems I’m having with my new lab mates, briefly they’re ignoring the fuck out of me and excluding me from pretty much everything. They’re all so very great with each other but they don’t really talk to me and avoid me in the lunch room etc. The PI is not all that different, she comes in the lab quite often and go where everyone else’s desks are and talks laughs with them for extended periods of time. Extremely rarely comes to my desk and that’s usually to ask something and never exceeds 30 seconds at any given time. So I am very lonely in the lab. I’m also new to the city (well new but it’s been about a year). I tried the postdoctoral association stuff but people go there to with a purpose and that purpose is never to find friends so that’s gone nowhere. I’m single so that part of my life is also lonely. I know everyone says tinder bumble or whatever but I can never see myself in those I don’t know why but t makes me feel so weird.
At this point, I just don’t know what to do. Some days like today (and days like this became more and more often) I feel like I’m drowning in my own loneliness. I’m over 35 and I feel like my life is wasting away and I’m just watching it go by laying on my couch crying. I don’t know how to get out of this hole I’m in and I feel like my every attempt to get out is in vain and leads to even more loneliness. Everyone around me has their friends and families and it’s just me who floats around aimlessly. I’m tired of constantly feeling like shit like I’m not lovable I’m not good enough for anything and anyone. How do I get out of this? How does anyone find their community? Am I too late?