What does repair look like after conflict?
My (n dx) partner can readily say they are sorry after I'm upset or they say something rude or break trust, but will then they will weaponize that apology against me like "I've already said sorry" or "we've already talked about this" like that absolves the conflict from having an impact that needs repairing later. It feels like out of sight out of mind, truly and I feel so invisible sitting in my pain (for years of this)
How does your adhd partner repair conflict? I have asked that they bring up these topics later on at a point when we are doing good or feeling stable so we can discuss in a healthy way in a good space, and the response I get every time is " why would I want to ruin a good day and start a fight?" Or the "I don't know, I don't know what's wrong with me" Both responses feel so dismissive.
I feel like I'm hitting a brick wall and wonder how repairs happens for everyone else. Do I literally have to use this radical acceptance that it's never going to happen?