u/ModdyMage

A Quick Clarification on the “No Cruising” Rule (Exception)

Hi Folks!
I just wanted to clarify something regarding the “no cruising” rule. This rule exists to protect the sub from the admin attacking the sub for inappropriate behaviour and/or shadow banning us. It also exists because there are other subreddits for it, and because I don’t want to constantly moderate random nudes.

This rule DOES NOT include discussion of cruising locations or tips for cruising safely. This information falls under safety information in our minds. It is part of the critical knowledge our community possesses to be safe with each other (albeit in a slightly elicit way).

It also DOES NOT include whatever happens in your DMs, provided you don’t post something like “Going to the Bathhouse DM me if You Wanna Fuck” which is obviously cruising. Something like “Looking for a Place to Cruise in Scarborough,” and then someone DMs you of their own accord, is totally fine. Basically, as long as a straight person wouldn’t read the post as “this is obviously just a sex ad,” then we’re okay.

I know it’s a fine line, but it’s an important one for us to stay in Reddit's good books and be open and accessible to the community as a whole.

Thanks!
Moddy

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u/ModdyMage — 2 days ago

Toronto Party Report — Jun 2026

Hi Folks!

My apologies for the delay from the last report. It is semi-manual labour, so it takes a minute. I expect they'll be monthly from here on out.

Here's the latest community party report, pulled from everyone's reviews in the weekly ratings threads. Ratings are out of 5, averaged where a party had more than one review.

📊 Full spreadsheet: [link here]

New this month: each party now gets a Logistics grade (A–F) for the door + coat-check experience. Logistics are on the organizer, not the venue — so the grade reflects the event, not the room.

🏆 Top of the list (5/5)

  • Yum Yum @ Complex 19 — great music and crowd, lockers + timed tickets killed the waits, friendly staff. (Runs hot; locker app takes a sec.)
  • Houseboy @ Bunker — small room that fills up and builds all night; near-instant entry.
  • Butt Buddies @ Sound Machine — loose, dance-forward vibe, pop/house and go-go boys.

⭐ Also excellent (4.5–4.75)

  • Fly 3.0 @ Complex 19 (4.75) — nostalgic revival, big energy, $25 and worth it.
  • Prism Bunny Ball @ Rebel (4.75) — well organized, spacious, standout DJ sets.
  • NSFW WERK @ National/The Well (4.7) — huge space, two rooms + play room, open till 4am.
  • Frocio (80's Italo Disco) @ Buddies (4.5) — excellent DJs, great vibes.
  • Slur @ Buddies (4.5) — affordable weekly Friday; themed so it varies week to week.
  • The Afters @ Complex 19 (4.5) — mixed crowd, self-serve lockers, no waits.

👍 Solid (4.0)

  • Prism (Main / Pride) @ Rebel — good all around, but ~$120 and pricey.
  • Precious Cargo @ McCormack Studios — banging music, room to move, goes late.
  • Redlite @ Black Eagle — fun, sweaty, cheap ($15), quick in.
  • Horse Meat Disco @ DPMRT — solid night; slow coat check.
  • Bunker (Regular Saturday) — great after midnight, but door waits can be wild (up to ~2 hrs).

⚠️ Mixed bag / watch-outs

  • Macho (3.75) — much better at June's Complex 19 event; the Feb 333 Yonge night had a ~40-min coat-check mess. Pricey ($50–65) with promo codes floating around.
  • Service @ Black Eagle (3.5) / New Ho Queen @ Buddies (3.5) — fine, nothing standout.
  • Pitbull @ Bunker (3.0, ranged 2–4) — hit-or-miss; one night felt dead with a bad DJ.
  • Bimbo @ Complex 19 (3.0) — great drag guest, but you can't see performances in that room.

💀 Bottom

  • Gay Rights @ Buddies (2.0) — ~45-min coat check, poor logistics, meh music, rough crowd manners.

📌 Recurring themes — who's getting it right, and who isn't

Coat check — the city's weak spot:

  • Gay Rights was the worst by a mile — ~45 min, staff visibly overwhelmed and no handle on the logistics.
  • Macho (Feb, at 333 Yonge) — ~30–40 min; ran out of room before 11pm. To their credit, June's Macho at Complex 19 sorted it out.
  • Horse Meat Disco — ~10–30 min, clearly understaffed for a winter crowd.
  • NSFW WERK — a genuinely great party, but a long, mixed-up line on the way out.
  • Bright spot: Complex 19's self-serve lockers basically erased the problem — Yum Yum, The Afters, Fly 3.0 all reported zero coat-check waits.

Door waits — wildly inconsistent:

  • Bunker's regular Saturdays take the crown for pain — up to ~110 minutes one night (and a half-empty floor once you finally got in).
  • Grapefruit — a line from ~11pm past midnight; people gave up and went home.
  • Slur — ~25 min once the after-midnight line built.

Pricing — climbing fast:

  • Bunker creeping $15 → $20 → $25 on Saturdays.
  • Big-room events now $50–120 — Macho $50–65, Bimbo $60, Prism (Main) ~$120.
  • Promo codes are everywhere, so presale buyers often pay more than walk-ups — don't assume early = cheaper.

🙏 What we'd love to see from organizers

We've got the data, so here are a few specific, reasonable asks:

  • Staff coat check for the actual crowd — especially in winter. It's the single most common complaint, and it's solvable: Complex 19's self-serve lockers basically eliminated it. Gay Rights and the Feb Macho are the ones to learn from here.
  • Release door tickets in line with capacity. A ~2-hour line for a half-empty floor (looking at Bunker Saturdays) isn't worth it for anyone — pace entry to match the room.
  • Publish ticket tiers up front, and stop pricing presale above walk-up. Floating last-minute promo codes below the presale price punishes your most loyal early buyers (Macho, this means you).

Fixes get noticed here too — Macho went from a 40-minute coat-check mess in February to a smooth night in June. Credit where it's due. 👏 Let's hope it's not just summer luck.

Thank you to everyone who took the time to rate a party — this only works because you share. If you went to something that isn't here, drop a review in this week's thread and it'll be in the next update. 💚

AI Notice: AI was used to tabulate these results; however, I have spot-checked them and found them to be consistent.

u/ModdyMage — 7 days ago

Mod Reminder: Please Report Unacceptable Comments and Scammers

Hello Folks,
With pride in full swing, we are having a lot of new members join. Many of these are amazing people, hello and welcome; however, some of them seem to think it is acceptable to run their mouths with impunity. This is a subreddit with an active moderation team, and we will address any comments that are unnecessarily harsh or unsupportive.

That said, it is difficult to keep track of all the comments within such a large subreddit, so we ask that you report comments that are unacceptable using the Reddit report function. Please do not engage with trolls; leave dealing with them to us.

Furthermore, some scammers are descending into the subreddit to take advantage of the scarcity of tickets. If you have been scammed, please let us know, with evidence, so we can ban them. Unfortunately, we cannot help you get your money back.

Happy Pride!
Moddy

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u/ModdyMage — 9 days ago

Weekly Party Ratings - Celebrate the Best; Warn Us of the Rest

Here is the party report to date

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Hello Folks,

Over the past few months, it’s become abundantly clear that parties in Toronto are pretty inconsistent in their offerings. Some are great, some are total disasters, and most are somewhere in the middle. The problem is that there isn’t any consistent place to know which parties are great and which ones to avoid. 

This weekly party report thread is where people can share what happened at the parties over the weekend and rate aspects such as wait times, organization, and overall experience.

Please use the template below to provide a rating. I will compile the results and process the data to create a weekly report. As we collect more data, the report will become more accurate and be a more reliable resource for our community. 

Full Party Name:

Venue:

When did you go?: (Month Day, Year)

Is it a weekly/monthly event?:

How much were the tickets/door price?:

What time did you arrive?: 

Approximate Door Wait Time (minutes):

Approximate Coat Check Wait Time (minutes):

Overall Event Rating (out of 5): 

Additional Observations and Comments: 

Google Doc link to the template (for easier copying). 

This will be an evolving project from week to week until I settle on what works well. If people have other factors that they would like to add, I’ll certainly consider them. 

u/ModdyMage — 2 months ago

Gentlefolk,

A quick heads-up. We've tightened the Automod rules to handle cruising/hookup posts more aggressively (those need to come down to keep the sub from getting shut down by Reddit). The new rules target unambiguous cruising patterns — age-gender-only titles, M4M shorthand, "hosting now" language — and shouldn't affect normal posts about meetups, dating, or friendship (we will tweak them to minimize issues).

We have also introduced flair to help people find posts more easily and to make it easier to find things that you are looking for. Flair is now required before posting.

We've also loosened the Reputation Filter so legitimate posts from newer accounts stop getting silently removed. If your post (or a friend's) was getting auto-deleted in the past, it should now land in the mod queue for review instead.

I've updated the Welcome Post to reflect these changes. Please take a quick look.

If you see a post that's clearly cruising and Automod missed it, please report it — those reports go straight to the queue. And if your post gets caught when it shouldn't have been, send modmail, and we'll sort it out quickly.

Many thanks,

~Moddy

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u/ModdyMage — 2 months ago

Gentlefolk,

We get asked about welcoming RMTs a lot on this sub, and the recommendations inevitably get buried in individual threads where nobody can find them two weeks later. So here's our first consolidated list, pulled from two-plus years of posts and comments you've been kind enough to share with the community.

A few things to note before diving in: these are community recommendations, not official endorsements. I've done my best to include only registered massage therapists (i.e., insurance-billable), and I've left out anyone where the comments suggested services beyond the scope of regulated massage therapy. If you have someone to add — or if a listing is out of date — drop a comment, and I'll keep this updated.

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Downtown East / Bloor-Sherbourne

Liam O'Reilly — now operating as Zazen Massage + Wellness Right at Sherbourne station (600 Sherbourne St, Suite 511). One of the most consistently recommended names across our threads, praised for both skill and professionalism. Listed on the Rainbow Health Ontario provider directory. His practice has expanded into a larger studio under the Zazen name, so check both sites. Does tend to book up, so plan ahead. www.liamrmt.com | www.zazenmw.com

Derek — Be Strong Massage Also near Sherbourne station. A community member has been seeing him for over five years and speaks very highly of him. Instagram: u/be_strong_massage

Church-Wellesley Village / Downtown

Synergy RMT & Wellness Located in the Yonge/Church/Wellesley area (so not quite the Financial District, but close enough for anyone working downtown). Also listed on the Rainbow Health Ontario provider directory. Online booking available through their site. www.synergyrmt.com

East End / Leslieville (near Broadview Station)

Dan Villasin at SVNCTUM This one comes up in virtually every thread on the topic, and for good reason. SVNCTUM is a certified safe space through Rainbow Health Ontario, and Dan is consistently described as both skilled and thoroughly professional. Multiple community members across different threads have vouched for him. Worth the trip from wherever you are in the city. www.svnctum.ca

Midtown (Yonge & Sheppard)

Motion Care Massage & Rehab A multidisciplinary clinic at 52 Sheppard Ave W, right near Yonge/Sheppard station, with direct billing available. Several community members have spoken well of the staff there. Online booking through their site. www.motioncareclinic.com

West End (Queen & Dufferin)

Primal Motion Recommended for the Queen/Dufferin area. www.primalmotion.com

Etobicoke

David Kalangara at Corbo Chiropractic Located at 555 Burnhamthorpe Rd, Suite 302, Etobicoke. A useful option for anyone in the west end who's been coming up empty closer to home. Online booking available. www.corbochiro.com

Mississauga / Oakville

Therapy Palace Verified as a professional practice. If you're in Oakville or Mississauga, this is the community's main referral for that area. www.therapypalace.com

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A few gaps worth acknowledging: coverage for Scarborough, Markham, Pickering, Ajax, and the Durham region is essentially nonexistent in this list — because it's essentially nonexistent in our threads. If you know of someone out that way, please share below, and you'll be doing a genuine service to a lot of community members who've been asking for years.

The same goes for anyone who has an update — moved, retired, changed practices. Keep the comments coming, and I'll revise as needed.

Many thanks,

ModdyMage

P.S. As always: these are registered massage therapists. For anything outside the scope of regulated practice, this is not the thread for you (or the right subreddit).

u/ModdyMage — 2 months ago

Hey GayMenToronto 👋

We recently compared city-based and regional LGBTQ+ subreddits on Reddit, and I'm excited to share the results with you.

While r/nycgaybros holds the crown for total subscribers (~22,000), r/GayMenToronto ranks #1 globally for engagement, with our users contributing more per person than anywhere else. This subreddit is also the only city subreddit to get this many subscribers without the "gay bros" label!

A few other highlights:

  • We rank 4th globally by subscriber count (~8,900), the only non-US city in the top 10 — bigger than entire state and provincial subreddits covering much larger geographic areas.
  • We're larger than our own provincial LGBTQ subreddit (r/QueerOttawa at ~6,000).
  • We are easily the largest Gay Men Subreddit in Canada, the second largest LGBTQ subreddit in Canada, and easily the most engaged Canadian subreddit (LGBTCanada is bigger but has ~10 Contributions a week, we have nearly 500!)
  • The analysis specifically noted that our weekly party ratings, nightlife threads, and community health resources are key drivers of engagement, and this shows that we use the sub as a tool, not just a feed.
  • The community is also one of the few city-based subreddits where the gay community has consolidated into a single, highly active hub rather than scattering across dozens of dead-end niche subs.

None of this happens without the people who show up, post, comment, and keep this community alive.

Thank you so much for your contributions that make this community relevant and useful. We mods have been hearing people talk about this subreddit in the real world, and it's gratifying to know that we're contributing meaningfully.

Cheers,

--Moddy and Descartes

Note: these are AI-generated results; the usual caveats apply.

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u/ModdyMage — 2 months ago

Just an FYI. Questions not already covered in the Megapost may be allowed at the discretion of a mod. However, these are increasingly rare as I collect more data.

Thanks,

Moddy

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u/ModdyMage — 2 months ago

Hello Folks,

Here is your updated party report. You will notice some new columns. From now on, we will also be collecting the dates, if it's a monthly/weekly event, and how much the ticket/door cost was. This should help people make better decisions about whether the cost is worth it. Where possible, I filled in the information that wasn't in the original reviews (Note: this was done using AI, so accuracy for price may be iffy).

As always, more data means better reports. Help us out by reviewing the parties you've attended.

Link to the party report.

Also, from now on, we will be providing a report of the best and worst three parties to date based on comments. You can see this below (This is an AI-generated report):

🏆 TOP THREE

#1 — Yum Yum @ Complex 19 ⭐ 5/5 (April 25, 2026)

  • Great music and crowd
  • Lots of different areas; play areas were busy
  • Self-serve lockers replaced coat check — zero wait
  • Timed tickets helped with entry flow
  • Staff were friendly and attentive
  • ⚠️ Locker app takes a moment to figure out (select your bank of lockers, not just the building)
  • ⚠️ Venue gets hot

#2 — Prism Bunny Ball @ Rebel ⭐ 5/5 (March 7, 2026)

  • Well organized
  • Spacious venue, strong crowd and music
  • Door wait: 3 min | Coat check wait: 5 min

#3 — Houseboy @ Bunker ⭐ 5/5 (February 14, 2026)

  • Moderately busy, small space
  • Started cold, warmed up as the night went on
  • Door wait: 1 min | Coat check wait: 5 min

💀 BOTTOM THREE

#1 (Worst) — Gay Rights @ Buddies in Bad Times ⭐ 2/5 (February 14, 2026)

  • Poor logistics and organization
  • Chaotic crowd
  • Door wait: 10 min | Coat check wait: 45 min

#2 — Macho @ 333 Yonge ⭐ 3.5/5 (February 14, 2026)

  • Coat check was full — long, frustrating wait
  • Door wait: 5 min | Coat check wait: 40 min

#3 — New Ho Queen @ Buddies in Bad Times ⭐ 3.5/5 (February 14, 2026)

  • Mixed-gender crowd, pop music, decent performances
  • Nothing stood out
  • Door wait: 15 min | Coat check wait: 10 min
u/ModdyMage — 2 months ago

Here is the party report to date

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Hello Folks,

Over the past few months, it’s become abundantly clear that parties in Toronto are pretty inconsistent in their offerings. Some are great, some are total disasters, and most are somewhere in the middle. The problem is that there isn’t any consistent place to know which parties are great and which ones to avoid. 

This weekly party report thread is where people can share what happened at the parties over the weekend and rate aspects such as wait times, organization, and overall experience.

Please use the template below to provide a rating. I will compile the results and process the data to create a weekly report. As we collect more data, the report will become more accurate and be a more reliable resource for our community. 

Full Party Name:

Venue:

When did you go (DD/MM/YYYY):

Is this a weekly or monthly event?:

How much did the tickets cost?:

What time did you arrive?: 

Approximate Door Wait Time (minutes):

Approximate Coat Check Wait Time (minutes):

Overall Event Rating (out of 5): 

Additional Observations and Comments: 

Google Doc link to the template (for easier copying). 

This will be an evolving project from week to week until I settle on what works well. If people have other factors that they would like to add, I’ll certainly consider them. 

u/ModdyMage — 2 months ago