r/GayMenToronto

Haven’t been to the black eagle before but saw this event and assumed it’s going to be more chill than the others. Has anyone been? What should em and my friend both in our twenties expect? Is it chill to just show up in normal going out clothes? Also for the dark room upstairs is it like you fully stop to go in or like you go up there and whip it out? Would love to get some more specifics on what the club will be like and what I should expect if I go up the stairs to the dark room.

After reading about it on here and seeing that people were saying it was fun, chill, and one of the best events at the Eagle, I decided to go and dance there.

The info on this subreddit about it gives the wrong impression. It's for hooking up, guys will absolutely randomly touch you (I got my ass grabbed on the dance floor and patted), the dancing is ancillary to that and very very cruisey.

Trying to be friendly and dance with people will signal to them that you wanna fuck and they'll take it as an invitation to start making moves.

Don't be like me and drop acid expecting a fun laid-back naked dance party lol. Also worth mentioning that checking your clothes costs $5.

Probably very stupid of me to have assumed a night where people walk around in jock straps (about 25% were clothed though) would be for anything other than fucking.

I haven’t had a gay encounter since college and though it was brief it was also fun. Now, some many years later at a young 39 years old I’m trying to figure out how to go about meeting someone to gain some actual gay sex* experience.

The app was too much. I used it as I would a hinge profile and I found the attention fairly overwhelming, and considerably aggressive.

I’ve pawed around the village, but I wasn’t able to find a place I felt fit for me. I’m very straight facing, and I felt a bit odd jumping right into the club scene, party scene.

Any advice? Looking for a bit of support.

Edit: it seems I’ve created a very round about way of saying; what’s a good way to find someone to teach me about gay sex?

That’s isn’t off Grindr or some aggressive hook up situation.

Thnx

Hey everyone!

I recently moved to Toronto for work, and seeing as I don't really drink, it's been kinda hard for me to meet other gay people here since most activities seem to be bars, clubs, etc. Dating apps haven't really been a hit with me since many on there seem to be only looking for hookups (yes, even when their profiles say "looking for long-term"). So I'm shooting my shot here hoping to find someone who is serious about dating and looking for a long-term relationship.

I'm a 25 yo middle eastern, 5'7, workout regularly and in fairly good shape. I have a full-time job in tech. I enjoy gaming, hiking, and nature in general. I would say I'm very romantic when it comes to relationships and I love showing it through physical touch and words of affirmation.

If I seem like someone you'd be interested to date, shoot me a DM! Friends are also welcome to help md connect more with the community. If not, any recommendations for groups or communities that can help me connect with more gay people here are greatly appreciated!

I’m 40 ish. Gay guy. Single. Fairly normal. Into the usual things, dinner. Drinks. Drag queens. Travel. I live in the east end and work in the financial district. Im open to meeting new friends for any of the above activities. Let’s chat.

As the title says lol. Seems kinda fun to be taken out on a small date, nothing too crazy. Just a casual date where we just eat out and chat.

I’m 26, and discreet and value privacy. Message me if you’re interested. So it can look like just friends hanging out.

I am planning to go Spa excess...what is best ....Monday ot Tuesday evening

Please give your suggestions

I think I’ve established a bit of a reputation for constantly hating on YumYum — but I find myself in a position of wanting to advocate for them based on a number of Pride posts that were mainly critical of cost.

True, it’s expensive. And in this economy, it’s fair to complain.

But what’s also true is that three men came together and opened a massive space for us to party in — and I can’t even imagine the cost of it. They’re undertaking current projects (rumours are circulating that the basement dance floor is being worked on) plus I’m sure other projects are underway.

Despite my criticism, they’ve been bringing good quality events and I’ve noticed upgrades especially towards lighting and sound so I know they are actively working in the background. I hope once they balance out (which might take a while), we will see prices go down. Just requires a bit of patience on our end.

Hot take: As someone who's been part of and also rejected by Toronto's "cool" gen z gay groups, I find the dynamic pretty toxic at times. These "in" circles tend to be cliquey and quick to judge people's belief systems, appearance, or fitness level. I get that you can't force anyone to be friends with you, but it stings a bit because I always looked up to the older gay community as being welcoming and inclusive and not another version of high school.

I'm fairly fit and outgoing, and I genuinely enjoy being friends with anyone, regardless of where they fall on those unspoken social scales, whether they're straight, more introverted or don't fit a certain physical standard. But the second I bring around friends who don't fit the standard these "cool" gays expect, both they and I get side eyed or straight-up excluded for it. I've even caught myself abandoning my own beliefs just to fit in, which I know is on me.

In a community that's supposed to be about acceptance, I hate that part of my generation of gays. Anyway, this is just a rant, please don't come at me too hard for it.

So I’m a virgin bottom living in midtown Toronto and I wanted to explore my hole before I take a real one . I have been fingering myself lately using coconut oil and I really feel good . Now I wanna go for the next step and buy an anal plug and a dildo so could anyone guide me on what size of each should I buy and which store is good for that also I don’t wanna spend a lot of money for it . It would be greatful if someone could guide me on this .

Background: Plans with my friends fell through (probably the canada loss at fifa had something to do with it lol) as most people just wanted to go home and call it an early night.

I still have "gas in the tank" and missed hitting up the village during pride peak time so whats happening in the village tonight that i should check out?

About me: Im generally extroverted but somehow cant bring myself to go for solo experiences so pushing myself to step out of comfort zone and not let a summer saturday night in the city go to waste. Im 36M and enjoy good (millennial) music to dance to, or stand up comedy if anything 'funny' is up for grabs.

Saw Black Eagle has a themed night but if I'll end up just standing in the corner by myself to some rave music i can't enjoy sober, maybe i dont belong?

Even if youre a bunch of friends just chilling at a patio and open to chatting/ bantering with a late bloomer, baby gay, lmk. Always up for a good intellectually stimulating conversation.

TLDR: what solo event(s) or attractions you'd recommend for tonight in the village. TIA

Hi Folks!
I just wanted to clarify something regarding the “no cruising” rule. This rule exists to protect the sub from the admin attacking the sub for inappropriate behaviour and/or shadow banning us. It also exists because there are other subreddits for it, and because I don’t want to constantly moderate random nudes.

This rule DOES NOT include discussion of cruising locations or tips for cruising safely. This information falls under safety information in our minds. It is part of the critical knowledge our community possesses to be safe with each other (albeit in a slightly elicit way).

It also DOES NOT include whatever happens in your DMs, provided you don’t post something like “Going to the Bathhouse DM me if You Wanna Fuck” which is obviously cruising. Something like “Looking for a Place to Cruise in Scarborough,” and then someone DMs you of their own accord, is totally fine. Basically, as long as a straight person wouldn’t read the post as “this is obviously just a sex ad,” then we’re okay.

I know it’s a fine line, but it’s an important one for us to stay in Reddit's good books and be open and accessible to the community as a whole.

Thanks!
Moddy

Hey everyone,

I'm posting here because I'm gay and was hoping to reach out to my community for a little help.

I'm a new grad RN, and I've been applying for jobs all over the Toronto/GTA for the past 3 months. I've applied to what feels like every hospital posting I can find, but I still haven't been able to get my foot in the door.

It's starting to feel really discouraging, and I'm wondering if anyone has any advice, knows of hospitals hiring new grads, or has seen any postings I might have missed. If anyone works at a hospital and would be willing to refer me, I'd be beyond grateful.

If anyone has advice, leads, referrals, or just wants to connect, feel free to DM me.

I know it's a long shot, but I figured it couldn't hurt to ask my wonderful community. Thank you so much for reading, and I genuinely appreciate any help. ❤️

Curious as to the take of young agents and Madonna. Do you care about confessions 2? Do you know what she has contributed to pop music and more importantly the LGBTQ community. I’m curious coming from an elder millennial.

Considering pride was less than a week ago

Hello this is my first post, I’m a young adult 21 turning 22 this year. I’ve always had a strong attraction to men but every time I’ve tried talking to guys my age I feel that they aren’t very mature or are purely seeking FWB situations which doesn’t seem to be very appealing to me. I’m looking for a way to find more older gay friends (preferably in their late 20’s or 30’s). Does anyone have any tips? Or suggestions?

Thanks hope everyone had a good Canada Day!

(For a rough idea of where I’m located I’m not far from the finch area, so if you have any suggestions please let me know)

Any gays who plays basketball? I want to join basketball clubs or whatever but dont know where to start. and Im pretty shy too. 🤣😅 Im 33M gay asian. Toronto.