My husband asked Grok to make his friend naked
I (27f) am newly married as of February. My husband (23m) is from a different country in Asia, here for college. We got married in Canada. Last year in September, I found out I was pregnant. This was unplanned, and I was terrified. My first reaction was to get an abortion, but I was terrified of regretting that. I’d always wanted to be a mom, and I knew my husband (then bf at the time) would be there for me. He had always wanted kids too. So I made the most difficult decision of my life and kept the pregnancy. We now have a three month old.
I went through my husband’s phone yesterday. I discovered that he had an onlyfans account, but I don’t know if he spent money on anybody. All I know is that he was trying to reset his password on there.
I also discovered he was messaging escorts. Two months after we got married. Also when I was around eight months pregnant. He had an account on this website called Locanto where escorts had ads up. He also had an account on their dating website. I don’t think he met up with anyone, but there’s a chance I’m wrong.
But the worst thing I saw on his phone was what he was doing with Grok. I did see that he asked grok “what 18+ website can let me talk with or text with woman” but besides that, he took a screenshot of this girl in a bikini that he knew in high school and sent it to Grok and said “I want to see boobs” and “I want to see her nude with boobs and nipple” I wanted to kill myself. I knew he had watched porn (which he already knew I didn’t like) but I didn’t think I’d ever see anything that awful. This was in January, when we were engaged.
I don’t think I can stay married knowing he did this to me. I’ve lost all respect for him. I’m not in love. I’ll never see him the same. We are going back to his home country soon so his side of the family can see the baby. But now I’m so depressed. I feel like I ruined my life. I love my daughter, but I feel like maybe I made a stupid decision by keeping her. Our plan was to live where he’s from for a while but if I get a divorce I doubt I can stay there. I feel like if I divorce him then my daughter would have to go between two different continents to see both her parents and that kills me to think about.
Would a divorce even be worth it? Maybe we can move to his home country but be separated? This would be so much simpler if my husband was Canadian. I mean he did come here to get his premium residency, but I also feel bad for his family back home knowing that if I get a divorce my daughter would be staying in Canada (I think) and we could visit his home country, sure. But it just seems awful for them. My husband’s parents would be devastated.
I really wanted to live in my husband’s home country, all of us together, my daughter learning the culture and language. I want a divorce but feel like if I did, my daughter wouldn’t get that experience. If she did, she’d be away from me for I don’t know how long. Or wouldn’t even get the opportunity to live there. My husband might have to stay in Canada. I’ve been thinking of the idea of separating but still being legally married so I can be with her in Asia. I have no idea what to do.
Is a divorce worth it?
Tl;dr: my husband tried to make AI porn of his high school friend while I was pregnant and I’m now struggling with the idea of divorce since we are from two different countries