AIO for confronting my husband for looking at prostitution adds?
I (44 f) have been with my husband (44 m) for 15 years. After having kids I became a stay at home mom. For years your connection has grown more distant and our sex life has become almost nonexistent. He travels for work sometimes and frequently has to travel yo other states for the day so he leaves early in the morning (think 4 a.m.) and doesn't get home until very late.
Five days ago I walked into the room he was in and glanced at his phone. He quickly exited out of the page but not before I saw images of women with text next to their pictures. I confronted him that evening after our kids were asleep and at first he played dumb. Eventually he said that he had been looking at women on Instagram and followed a link that lead him to a page with adds for women advertising sex work (what i saw). He had clearly been scrolling through the images because I could tell it was not the top of the page.
He swore he is not now nor has he ever cheated. He told me he would share his location with me or do anything to show me he is not cheating. I took time to process and decided I wanted to look at his phone. I have never done this before but wanted to try to look for hidden apps/pictures. He gave me his phone and I found nothing. He was upset saying he wouldn't do anything to jeopardize what we have built.
I'm not sure what to think. He's trying to make me feel like I'm over reacting but I don't want to be naive. Any advise?