u/Moonlight-14

Our first baby was born at 25 weeks and we lost him in the nicu at 8 weeks old early last year. We recently had our rainbow baby girl and I'm struggling with the question "is this your first?" I just can't bring myself to tell strangers about something so painful, so I just awkwardly mutter yes which makes me feel guilty. My son will always be my first, but is it ok if I don't always tell people in a casual setting?