u/More-Sprinkles-4788

Everyday ba maraming tao dyan? Kahit Sunday and weekdays? Hahaha pupunta kami tonight.

How's the nightlife? Is it fun even on Mondays? Or is it the same as other cities, only Fri-Sat lang super active ang clubs?

CONTEXT: We're going to Boracay fresh off an important event in the morning (I know, super hassle). It's the type of thing we can't skip, but at the same time we've already booked our Boracay accommodation and made plans for it. Ideally, we could just depart early in the morning on July 3, but because we can't, here is the travel plan we devised:

Roro (Bacolod to Dumangas) — 12:00 - 2:00 p.m.
Trike (Dumangas to Tagbak Terminal) — 2:00 - 3:00 p.m.
Ceres Bus (Tagbak to Caticlan) — 3:00 - 11:00 p.m.
Jetty Caticlan Port (Caticlan to Boracay) — 11:30p.m. *To avail night trip / 5:00a.m. *Willing to wait for the first trip, but do they even accept passengers to wait around the terminal?

Not sure if this works, especially the Jetty Port part, because I'm not really sure about the schedules for the first and last trip. Plus, it's habagat season so there might be some difficulty travelling?

Please let me know! Totally open for suggestions.

For context, event organizing isn't our main thing, but we typically host big events 1-2 times every year.

So, for the past two years I've been one of those 25 staff members doing the legwork at the bottom. But now I've been given the opportunity to step up and lead the 25.

I've always been one to provide feedback and criticism to how our events have been handled these past years, especially with the workload, because again, event management isn't our main thing. But now that I'm in this position, I've come to realize how difficult it may be.

How can you pull of a 3D2N seminar-competition with 50-something guests without burning out your 25 staff members? I'm beginning to feel like no amount of planning or trying to equalize task delegations or committee creating can mitigate the exhaustion for the staff.

I'm significantly behind in terms of experience, so maybe you guys could kindly provide some tips on how to navigate this? How would you plan an event with limited (already tired) manpower?

Since attending such things can be both a huge investment and risk (limited budget hahaha), I was wondering if you guys have experienced any such natl events that feel totally worth the trip?

Also, what do you think makes a campus journo event genuinely good? Talk topics? Unique competitions? Networking opportunities?

So far, I’ve heard of Inkblots, TRAC… and that’s about it hahaha While I can research and read abt them, I'd like to hear from actual experience rin.

Problem/Goal: It's one of those 99% vs the 1% dilemmas. The 99%: My boyfriend has been loving, patient, faithful, and genuinely kind throughout our 3-year LDR relationship. The 1%: During our recent meetup he made a disturbing "joke" about Japan's age of consent.

Context: For the 99%, he's been nothing but kind, understanding, and patient ever since naging kami. Conflicts are resolved with him calmly listening to my concerns and taking my words to heart to improve himself. Walang verbal/physical abuse, never siya naging unfaithful, and he goes above and beyond to make me feel special. This is how l'd describe our three years even with the challenges of being LDR (we typically see each other once a month, twice very rarely). I believed that he's one of those rare individuals who genuinely have a good heart.

But this 1% makes me doubt everything. Kahit dark humor siya, I believe it doesn't justify this "joke" that made. He was talking about one of his friends studying to be a seaman and how that could be one of his career options as well. Then, he brought up Japan's age-of-consent, which is 16, saying something along the lines of "If magstop yung barko namin doon, sabi ng barkada ko baka maghahanap siya dun ng 16." So at that point, I was already uncomfortable as he was clearly okay with such a remark made by his friend. That already ruined our first IRL meeting after one month na hnd nagkikita.

Tas omg he made it worse, kasi he then murmured na baka raw pwedeng i-gngbng nila yung 16 na mag-isa lang siya kasi age of consent naman yun doon. WHAT THE HELLLL pinaulit ko sa kanya yung sinabi niya and I slapped him for the very first time. Galit na galit talaga ako na parang masusuka. Like, hnd naman ako perfect pero labag talaga yung mga ganyan sa values ko, esp as a woman na nababastos sa kalsada and at one time was inappropriately touched by a co-worker (AND MY BF KNEW ABT THAT). I was even more disappointed because I thought my bf was genuinely a good person.

After I slapped him, I angrily told him all the reasons why it wasn't okay and this and that (it pained me that I had to explain all that when it should've been just plain human decency). Talagang sinabihan ko siya na "break na tayo" kasi at that moment I was scared for our future daughters if ever. We then sat there for like 2hrs with him breaking the silence from time to time by trying to apologize, pero each time hindi niya talaga matapos ang sinasabi niya kasi naiiyak na siya.

Eventually, he literally begged to be forgiven, acknowledged how messed up that was, and promised to do everything na makakaya para hindi na mauulit. Honestly, his apology was a very good one.

But I don't know... Because even if he never says such a thing again, he's already shown me how messed up his mind can be.

This isn't an official break-up kasi we'll be meeting again tomorrow to talk things out. Pero anong gagawen hahaha worth it pa ba yung magandang 99% if this 1% of him is capable of being this bad? Should this be turned into an opportunity for growth para sa kanya? Or are men all like that deep down no matter what?

Attempts: He's never made a joke this bad before. But upon hearing this, despite my anger, I did my best to make him understand how terrible it was. Like, "if you had a 16-yr old daughter and other uncles would joke like that how would you feel?" "you're part of the problem because you know it wrong but laugh along with your friends who make light of it" and other things.