I've left a guy cause he's pro life, was it right?
Hi guys, I don't know if this is the right place to talk about this sort of things, but I've just wanna share my "dating" experience with this one guy I met online.
So, at first he seemed like we were the same person, same taste, same way of saying things, same interests, ecc. so i really liked him.
But, he's really religious, (orthodox) and I'm not, so, we were talking about he's beliefs, and i've asked him what he thinks about abortion, since I know many religious people are pro life. (I'm pro choice)
And he was, and basically told me that abortion is murdered, it's egoistical, it's dehumanizing, but most importantly, he explained to me that if i ever get pregnant by him (because he can't control his "temptations") he would never let me have an abortion with his baby.
I kinda freaked out, the fact is that i really liked this guy, I've never felt something for someone in years, but I'm only 21, still unemployed, i don't even know what to even do with my life, and to be honest, having kids is the worst thing i could ever do right now.. I've tried to see his perspective, but I've felt sick to my stomach, i knew in my heart that this wasn't right.
I suffer from anxiety, didn't eat or slept for two days because of it, all of his words made me feel ashamed of my morals, and it didn't even make sense to me cause he seemed so nice.. so i really genuinely thought "is it really possible that this guy is a pro life? that he wouldn't let me have a choice? or I'm really just being judgemental?"
I stayed until we had another argument on a different thing, always on his ideology, told him I didn't know what to do or to say anymore, and he (rightfully) pushed me away, and told me i came from some sort of propaganda, the "cult of the ego" and I'm only searching superficial kind of pleasures like all people, that before him I've lived in a bubble.
It was my fault, I should've agreed with him on ending things with the abortion argument, cause he didn't want to have a relationship with a pro choice in the first place.
I still stand on my values and morals, most importantly on my life choices, but sometimes i wonder if i could've made it work.. maybe I'm still idealising him, maybe it's the fact that for the first time I've really thought to finally have founded my soulmate, and then getting crushed under a thing i didn't even know I would have to worry about.
In my heart I know it was the right choice, but what do you guys think? dodged a bullet or i could've made things work? (def could've handled things way better, but love is a bitch and I'm personally traumatized on the topic)
Thanks! (sorry for the grammar, english isn't my first language)
(Guys, thank you so much for all your responses and for the support!! I've read every single one of you, y'all are very kind, this really helped me process the situation more properly to the core of it, i no longer really regret it, and yes, he's blocked. Huge life lessons for sure, i do know best now and for that I'm grateful, so, thanks again!)