I feel like romantic relationships will always be prioritized over plantonic ones.
This is probably obvious, but I feel as though no matter what, romantic relationships will always be prioritized over platonic ones. Maybe I was too hopeful in thinking that it wouldn’t (within my own relationships), but they do.
I feel it every time my friends get their partners gifts, homemade or bought, yet on my birthday I get two shirts that don’t fit me a couple months after my birthday. The last gift was apparently cancelled and they never bothered to say anything. I feel it every time we hang out, their partner is also there and I feel like I should just leave. I feel it every time I’m expected to put headphones on immediately when I wake up or for hours at night because they’re in the next room. I feel it when they sit next to each other at gatherings but I’m suggested to sit next to others I’m not as familiar with. And more.
I hate feeling this way because I do like their partner. Of course they apologize everytime I can hear them. We get along really well, but sometimes I miss what my relationship with my best friend was before they got into a romantic one. We’ve been best friends for nearly two decades. They say they’re self aware about how they spend time with their friends now after getting into a relationship, but I think it’s just the nature of being in one to forget about it. I don’t ever express towards them in person, so I’m coming on here because I think I’m going to drown lol. I’m not getting into too many details about it, so this may seem not like a huge deal but who knows.
I am extremely proud to be aroace, but being aroace is also kind of isolating sometimes