u/MsBuffy1970

Good afternoon. I’ve (56 y/o FM) been dating on and off for 7 years. Had a couple of long term (1-2 year) relationships. I’ve experienced that many of the men I’ve dated (1 date up until those I’ve dated 4 months) abuse alcohol. These men have been between 56-66 and I’ve met them on Match or Facebook Dating. Last year I ended a 4 month relationship due to his excessive drinking. Another man I dated for a couple months drunk dialed me on FaceTime naked as the day he was born, and drank a lot when we’d go out. I had a first date yesterday for coffee, then he called me last night on his way home from dinner with a buddy and I could tell he had been drinking. He said he was fine and I said “you’re slurring your words, and driving!” He texted this morning to apologize and said “that’s not who I am.” I responded that I was uncomfortable with last nights phone call and wasn’t interested in dating anymore. Looking for advice on how to weed these men out, or advice and experiences from others. I drink socially and have no problem with those who drink responsibly…but it seems like statistically I find men who don’t. As always, thanks for any advice!

Good morning. My 16 1/2 year old chi terrier mix, Louie, has been having accidents and drinking a lot. Vet visit and labs were negative for diabetes, Cushing’s, UTI, and kidney disease. Vet prescribed doxycycline for a latent Lyme infection he’s had for 3+ years. I’m at a loss on what to do. He can mostly make it thru the night without an accident, but i have to get up around 12:30 am to let him out for last pee call for the night. He can literally need to go out to pee every 20 minutes. He’s been drinking a lot sporadically during the day. Extreme thirst at times but not always. He’s deaf, partially blind, startled by shadows and sunlight. Vet is worried about “his brain” (his words) bc Louie was extremely anxious when they tried to do a bladder ultrasound and when they took him outside to pee and he walked into a dandelion bc he can’t see. I explained that he was only anxious bc the bladder test was invasive and he was scared, and he’s blind. Kinda went mama bear on his comment. I’m sure my dog is experiencing normal age related dementia but the incontinence I cannot figure out. I’ve ordered done belly bands. Last night i let him out and he peed, he walked back into the house and peed right in front of me, not even 5 minutes later. Any advice if suggestions most appreciated!

Why so many matches with those that abuse alcohol?

Frequent urination/thirst