Potty Training Advice?
My boys just turned 3 in June. We visited potty training once before last December but did not really seem to be clicking. Now we are starting in the Summer to see if they are ready. My boys are diagnosed Austic and I know that can affect progress.
Thing is I am having a hard time with it. It is only Day 2 and I have already stepped away to have a meltdown (away from the boys of course). I started Day 1 in Pullups (they've been in these since our first attempt since i did not want to switch them back to diapers) and we just visited the potty about or around every hour. Read a book about using the potty and just drew attention to their privates and repeated Pee and Poop on Potty. Then today we removed the Pullup and put them in undies so they could feel when they went. We've have had no success so far. Everything has been accidents but I know its only day two.
We took up our carpets and use the bathroom in our house. I have the mop on standby, and hand wash amd dry undies routinely. I also bought recorder buttons for my nonverbal son so he can press it to indicate he needs to go and we do so everytime we "use" the potty.
I am just really stressed. They start at a prek program at school in the Fall. They reassured me its not a problem and that a lot are not potty trained but I want to give it another honest go before they start.
I feel like im doing things wrong and they just aren't getting it. I have rewards and praise for positive reinforcement and Day 1 we made sure to make the potty a positive place but we still arent going in the toilet and I dont think my nervous system can handle this. I feel bad as well because I am handling it so poorly. When the pee in the floor I feel extremely flustered and rushed to get them to the toilet. Then im nervous one will pee while I am working with the other. Then I go to clean up the mess and I swear by the time ive mopped it up the other has done had an accident. I cant keep up and I dont want to make potty time stressful for them because they see Mommy panicking. Thats not beneficial to them or me.
Ive ended up leaving them in the underwear but placing a PullUp over top to prevent the mess but hopefully the wet feeling of the underwear will still be present as to indicate a need to potty.
I am open to any advice. I am really struggling and I feel like I am failing at this.
(Additional Info: They both recieve OT/Speech Services as well as ABA. ABA recommend just underwear so I was giving it a try this go around because she said it works best. I am also in Therapy to help navigate my anxiety and stress (so that things like this do not overstimulate me as much).