u/MugumboFett

So long story short; this was a simple question I was asked by a therapist/counsellor about 4 months ago when faced by corruption in the workplace where my employers were essentially trying to intimidate me out of pursuing Workcover claim regarding an injury that I suffered at work.

This was a question that really resonated with me, a question that I found myself unable to answer. I began to realise; I often overthink the simplest of questions. I find that answers I provide must be meaningful and logical as to not be misinterpreted or misconstrued.

Thoughts that gathered;

• I am a father
• I am a husband
• I am a son
• I am a *employment role*
• I am a good person
• I am kind
• I am thoughtful

I however found myself unable to answer with any of these as if I needed more clarification behind the depth of the question.

Is this sense of "self" or "identity" a struggle for many other adults with ADHD?

Once you've burned out from all possible career paths, sports, hobbies, friends, family and all aspects of life. How do you then begin to define yourself? How do you then know who you are?

For example, if I was into any hobby, it would become an obsession at the core of my day-to-day life. The same for impulsive job switching, the new workplace would become an obsession until I became bored, and the novelty began to wear off.

How do you keep things interesting and just enjoy work or hobbies in the moment, instead of obsessing to become really good at something in a short period of time and then lose all interest whatsoever.

I have a beautiful child, a loving and caring partner, I have a job that is the pinnacle of my career, however I don't feel any sense of fulfilment or at least a sense of "something to look forward to." I have no interest in any prospective hobbies anymore, no desire or curiosity.

TLDR; I've "lost my spark" has anyone experienced a similar feeling? How did you manage to overcome it (or deal with it)?

Hello all :)

to preface this post,
- I am formally diagnosed with ADHD.
- I am medicated
- I have improved in daily function thanks to medication, but I still struggle with long-formed habits of task paralysis, RSD, social anxiety etc. due to having been undiagnosed/untreated for 25+ years. I am struggling to break cycles that have taken a quarter of a century to form.

My question is; What is everyone's experience with ongoing support and improvement with the habitual struggles that late-diagnosed ADHD'ers face?

- Therapist
- Psychotherapist
- Psychologist
- Psychiatrist

Thanks in advance <3

ADDITIONAL CLARITY: What treatment/practitioners have you tried? Pros/cons. etc.

I've spoken to therapists/counsellors, over the past 15 years and had some decent, some bad experiences.

Never really had great experiences with psychologists. In their defence, they only ever dealt with me in "critical states" so looked at my mental health very "surface level" in acute times of my life. I am wondering if now I've been diagnosed with ADHD, they will be less "dismissive" of my concerns about having it. Always focussed on GAD, depression etc. and actually help me work through the struggles I face.

Psychiatrist actually recommended I speak with another health professional to help with the peripheral struggles I'm having, as from the perspective of medication and day-to-day function/improvement of my ADHD has largely benefited through medication stabilisation and working with them.

No idea what psychotherapists do, googled it, understand it vaguely, but never experienced dealing with them.

Things I like;

• Wireless
• Charging Dock
• Mic can be "flipped up" out of the way, which also mutes the mic

I had one of the RIG 800 PRO SERIES which lasted about a year, then it was as though the internals of the mic started fatiguing and no longer worked.

I absolutely loved the headset, it's great having a "dock" so I bought a second one of the same headset, and it lasted about 3 months. (Yes I could have claimed warranty, if I hadn't lost the reciept)

I then resorted to using the headset from my Xbox (an entry level turtle beach) which was cheaper; this lasted about 4 months until the mic began doing the same thing, the mic itself still actually works, but it's no longer responsive to the internal sensor/button that mutes it. So sometimes it gets stuck on or stuck muted.

Are there any alternatives, with the same features that will actually last at least 12 months? I like the "lightness" of the RIG 800 Pro, and that it has "cloth-like" material so I don't get sweaty if wearing it for more than 30 minutes. I really look after my things, so it hasn't been dropped or obnoxiously twisted or anything like that. It's simply fatigued through being used as intended which is disappointing.

Thanks in advanced.

So, what's the key difference between Legend and upwards?

Was hardstuck at crusader/archon for many years. Now I am Floating between Legend 1 and Legend 4. I get matches with Anyone from crusader > Divine intermittently. I can't seem to tell what the difference is between Legend and the 2 upper ranks. Other than a slight CS consistency. (There are obviously better player synergy and communication from higher ranks, but this is not something I can personally control).

I'm asking from a place of wanting to improve. I believe the key difference between Crusader/Archon vs Legends+ is the Legends + tend to have more malleable items builds and slightly better drafting (as well as players specialising in particular roles).

One major yet subtle thing I noticed about Divines is that they tend to be able to level their heroes better, even from a losing lane. For example (versing higher rank offlaners); I could be pos 1 with an amazing pos 5, destroy lane, get multiple kills and completely starve the offlaners their CS. But the enemy offlaner seems to somehow come back into a teamfight 10 minutes later and be 2-3 levels above my offlaner.

This is something I'm actively trying to work on, this space between lane and teamfighting seems finicky, because if my other two lanes were annihilated it feels unwinnable sometimes. Oher two cores cutting off my farm route in the jungle and not pressuring any lanes, supports running in circles with no core to work with.

Are there any tips on a farm route or something to capitalise on this 5minute window I might benefit from to scale better?

Are there any other skills people have noticed in general between these ranks that I could assess and work on? Thanks

Background: I was 54kg at 16 years old. Decided to go to the gym 3-4 days a week and ate 6 meals a day where I hit 74kg of lean muscle mass. As this fixation/obsession died off (diagnosed ADHD and was totally unsustainable how much I was force feeding myself) - I lost a lot of the weight within 6-12 months and dropped back to about 64kg. I also basically revolved my life around the gym at that time of my life. Alot of attention I got from girls was also a massive contributing factor to me being so committed too.

For years I was pretty contempt, fluctuating between 63-66kg (I work trade work) and it never affected my energy levels or anything.

In recent years I've become a father and along with comes the negatives (despite being 99% positive) the negative being that I get every bug known to mankind from the little gremlins lol. I've had gastro 3 times in the past year.

Issue: I noticed my energy being suboptimal as I'm getting older as well as working a pretty physically demanding job. On top of that prior to my child being born I wanted to make sure I was the best version of myself and started ADHD medication which has noticeably affected my appetite but greatly impacted my mental health and wellbeing (and many other aspects of life). I'm now sitting at 57kg, lethargic and starting to feel "weaker".

I also have had my bloods done time and time again. Everything comes back fine.

I need some easier means of consuming more calories - yes I add peanut butter to things, yes I add honey, yes I add avocado oil, yes I drink milk.

What I've tried: I've made a conscious effort to put on weight my daily diet looks something like:

Breakfast: Bowl of cereal + protein shake (oats, honey, ice cream, milk)
Smoko: Leftovers from the night before i.e. Spag bol / steak salad etc. (70% of a takeaway container size portion)
Lunch: My muscle chef microwave meal + banana + handful of blueberries + a nut bar
Afternoon Snack: Half a box of shapes or half packet of pringles or some fruit or something like that
Dinner: Normally something like a steak and salad or spag bol or curried sausages etc.
Right at bedtime: Protein shake the same as the morning.

I'm not good at tracking calories, but I can't seem to consume enough to put on weight. Are there any calorie dense "quick fix" fillers that are easy to stomach. I input activity levels into an app and it estimated approx. 3500 calories a day is what I need to put on weight. Which seems impossible for me to consume.

Activity levels: Anywhere from min 10 thousand to max 35 thousand steps per working day (including stairs).
Physically demanding job (heavy tools etc.) My tool bag is 25kg. I work with heavy industrial plant so moving around 20kg is the norm, some of my tools weigh 2-3x my child.

Note: I am also mildly lactose intolerant, so I have lactose free milk, cheese etc. as well as plant-based protein powder.