AITA for being stand offish to my neighbors?
My husband and I bought our first home. The night we closed on our house my best friend and her husband, and also my in-laws came to see the home. It was empty at this point since it was during the week and we weren’t moving in until the weekend. When we were leaving for the night we turned off all the lights and locked the doors. Mind you it was dark outside and we did not see any lights on when we left. The next morning I came back with my Mom so she could see it and help me deep clean before moving our stuff in. When we got there the hallway light was on. I just thought maybe we forgot to turn it off even though my husband, my best friend, and me triple checked and swore everything was off.
Fast forward to the next day, we had our locks changed. Once the locksmith was done I went back to apartment for the day. Again because we hadn’t moved in fully yet.
The following morning I was outside and just carrying in some small things when I ran into my new neighbor. Well turns out it is the neighbors Mom who doesn’t actually live next to us but is there basically every single day to help with their kids and dog. She didn’t introduce herself and called me over and asked “did you have your locks changed?” I replied “yes, we just weren’t sure who all had keys and felt better just starting with new locks” her response was “well what am I supposed to do with MY key now?” I was SHOCKED. I wanted to say “this is why we changed the locks” but instead I just said “I’m not really sure.” She then explained how sometimes should would house sit for the previous owners which is why she had the key. She noticed we had a dog and asked “for a new key so she could let our dog out while we are working during the day” and I kindly told her that it’s okay since he is used to being home during the day, I’m part time, and on longer days we send him to doggy daycare.
I told my husband about this and we both think maybe the night we first closed on the home and swore all the lights were off the she was in our house? We can’t be certain but I find it weird that within 24 hours of having our locks changed she noticed. The truck the locksmith drove was not specifically labeled for being a locksmith company and also was parked in our driveway which has our house blocking it from the neighbors view.
The neighbor has come to our door for various reasons now and asked to come inside, we politely decline because we are busy moving in etc. Some reasons she has knocked on our door include: asking if we are going to get a collar for the invisible fence since then our dogs can play together, came to give me more information on the company for the invisible fence, asking for her grandson to come use our basketball hoop, giving us old fridge filters the previous owners gave her etc.
Any time we go outside she tries to have a 30 minute conversation with us about random things. My husband and I are at the point where we ignore her. We wave/say hi but then keep walking inside. If she comes to our door we don’t answer. I don’t want to come off as rude because we are new to the neighborhood but also I feel like she is overstepping boundaries.
Again when I say neighbor I am referring to the true owner’s Mom/grandma to the kids and she doesn’t even live in the home. She just is helping every single day.