u/Murky-Grapefruit5191

We have a Thuma California King bed frame and recently bought a Tempur-Pedic Ergo Smart Split Cal King adjustable base (two Twin XL bases). Originally we planned on using two Tempurpedic Twin XL mattresses, but decided to use a single California King mattress instead. Unfortunately, the split bases are ours now and can't be returned.

The problem is that the adjustable bases won't sit flush inside the Thuma frame (Although was told many times by Mattress firm and online reviews that it would). The interior corner joinery/wood blocks on the Thuma legs prevent the bases from dropping all the way down, so they end up resting on those blocks instead. This raises the adjustable base (and mattress) about two inch higher than intended. Sitting on the edge of the mattress and my feet dont even touch the floor (I'm 5'8").

Has anyone run into this with a Thuma and an adjustable base? Is there a workaround that doesn't involve modifying the bed frame? I'd love to keep the Thuma if possible, but I'm hoping there's a solution I'm overlooking.

I've attached photos showing where the bases are contacting the corner blocks.

Hi everyone! Looking for some positive and helpful advice here. My boyfriend of 2.5 years just got into the police academy this week. While we spoke a ton about what a life of a cop looks like prior to him applying, it never hit me until this week what this potentially means.

Everyone in my family has worked a typical 9-5 job. However, a lot of people in his family come from the police force, so he grew up with this influencing his life. The good thing is my role is fully remote which gives me a ton of flexibility.

I'm doing my best to be supportive, but I feel extremely overwhelmed on how this looks for the future when kids come into our life. The thought of him not being around on weekends or nights is completely foreign to me. We are both on the same page about our relationship, have had many talks about the future, and totally think kids can be a possibility for us in the next 3-5 years.

The more and more I read on reddit, the more concerned I become. Tons of comments about the high divorce rate (although i've seen some studies where its only 14%, lower than the average of 16%). Tons of negative comments about women feeling like a single mother, etc.

So I'm looking for some helpful advice on what we can be doing now, while he's in the academy, to help us prepare for potentially a stressful time navigating life and schedules in the future. What are the positives about this job?

Thuma's Bedframe doesn't fit my Tempurpedic adjustable base

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