How do you feel about your boyfriend telling you to lose weight, even though your weight is even below normal and you have a normal build? I have a situation like this:
My boyfriend told me to lose weight (I’m 160 cm [5'3"] and weigh 47 kg [103 lbs], he said to go down to 42 kg [92 lbs]). All my childhood I was told like a girl: don't eat much, etc. I started going to sports, the coach there treated me terribly because of my weight, he paired me with boys who weighed over 60 kg [132 lbs], and at that point I was 45 kg [99 lbs]. I haven't gone there for about 3 years now. Then last summer I tried losing weight on MLC (fat burners), got down to 44 kg [97 lbs], dropped about 7 kg [15 lbs] from my initial weight which was 52 kg [114 lbs], and after that I haven't weighed more than 48 kg [105 lbs]. I had huge anxieties about my weight, but then I accepted myself and now I eat what I want and weigh 47 kg [103 lbs], but my boyfriend said:
— Don't you want to lose weight to 45 kg [99 lbs]? I think you should give it a try.
(A few days later) Maybe 42 [92 lbs]?
I was honestly in shock, but then he started using the phrase: "If you lose weight, I will love you more." Honestly, I don't want to lose weight. Is it worth it?