AITA for telling a guy I've been dating for about 6-8weeks "I don't need that advice right now?"
I'm a 40ishF who never had children (not by choice-- never found the right guy) but who finds herself a legal guardian of an elementary kid with trauma. The child will be moving in with me soon, so I was explaining to this guy I've been dating (very infrequently) for the past 6-8 weeks a situation that happened at a gas station with the kiddo where boundaries were tested. He then related to the situation to some thing that one of his daughters always used to do and essentially told me that I handled it wrong. I "gave too much wiggle room." I've reflected and can't think of anything I'd do differently. My entire point for bringing up the situation (which was very different especially since my kid hasn't known me for their entire life like his daughter knew him... not to mention again, trauma!) was to explain why I couldn't continue our spirited conversation about the great data center issue because I was feeling emotional and overwhelmed. It was an example of something that happened that I know will be part of my guardianship journey to exemplify why I am feeling this way. When I replied, "That's not the kind of advice I need right now," and explained that as an educator with a certain background, I do already know some things and disagreed with his assessment of the situation, he called me rude and said that I should have just said, "I'll take it under advisement." I can't think of a single time I've ever criticized his parenting or anything, and I don't know a single parent alive who wouldn't feel criticized for unsolicited advice. But is he right? AITA?