Issues with cats.
How do I go about my living situation the correct way? I live with my good friend of many many years now. He moved down in November to come live with me along with his two cats from his girlfriend that he is watching for the time being. It is me and my partner in our room with my cat and then him and the cats in the house.
The only concern I really had was the cats getting along. Unbiased, my cat is very gentle and tame friendliest and easiest cat I’ve ever had in my life and is 1 year old. She has lived with other cats and was very friendly (and she was 6 months and the other was 3 when they were introduced). My roommate has two 3 year old cats that are a bonded pair. Immediately the tension is high when we started to introduce them, his cats hissing and swatting while mine approaches with normal curiosity.
Then it evolved into them lurking around corners and swatting at mine as well as beginning to pee in the living room as well as MY bedroom. I still let it slide because I don’t know what to say and he said he’s working on it. The breaking point for me was when I came home to my cat being attacked under my bed which is HER safe space. She sits there in all times og the day when she wants to relax and hide. Well his cats were on both ends of my bed and swatting and she was shaking under my bed. He pulled them out and apologized but then again later that afternoon they cornered her in our living room and the same my cat is shaking and afraid while they sway at her and hiss if she tries to move. On top of that, his cats got into my stuff in our storage room and peed all over my things. My retro game collection, my clothes, my blankets, items from my deceased grandfather.
At this point, I was done. I told him he has to keep the cats away from mine because now I’m fearful for her life if all of us aren’t in the house she will be killed if it escalates into a 2 on 1. So for months now he’s finally agreed to just keep them in his room. But now he brought up wanting to try reintroducing them again and I just felt the worst pit in my stomach. My cats finally been herself again, laying around the house and not checking every corner she walks by and loving as all hell. What do I do? I am leaning towards saying I don’t want the cats near mine and if it’s a problem for him he can move out.