u/MysteriousBoard4311

Hello

I have 2 daughters aged 7 and 12 (also have a 10 yr old son). They squabble all the time. 12yr old has a gift of knowing how to trigger the 7yr old by just looking at her. But also isnt very warm to her and tends to exclude her from play. Completely the opposite of how she treats her brother.

7 yr old often complains that her older sister doesnt love her and last night told me she has been mean to her for 3 years. Maybe im overblowing it but i thought the fact she knows how long it has been going on for (i also note its been for that long) is really sad.

I know exactly what is going on as my older brother was similar to me. Not being mean but just constantly trying to annoy me. It's has a effect on our relationship where we are cold and not very close. I don't want that to happen to my kids.

My wife seems to think its normal and keeps saying they will be very close when they get older. I think thats just wishful thinking. Weve had no major family issues. We tend to do most things together. Weve tried to tell eldest nicely and also withdrawn treats. Nothing works more than temporarily. I just cant figure out what to do to bring them closer to together?

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