u/MystiiLady

I love the weight I lost. I thought I did things right with exercise and protein while losing but OMG, I have the saggiest boobs and all of the wrinkles seem to have gathered in my front - belly, chest, etc. I hate taking my clothes off or even seeing my body when I am naked. Of course this is having an effect on my relationship with my husband.

So, barring an unexpected windfall that would permit me to do some body contouring, what do I do? I am done losing weight, now how do I fix my brain?

I went to change my user flair in here and discovered there isn't one for maintenance. Pre-maintenance but not maintenance. Can one be added>?

Hello everyone. I'm so glad I found this group. My husband is a crossdresser and has been since he was a teenager at least. We've been married 37 years. He went a long time with barely wearing anything, maybe bras or panties once in a while, but I mean he went years - maybe 10. Recently, the topic came up and he admitted that he would like to dress more often, perhaps even every night.

Ok, I really don't mind what he wears. I really never have. I prefer that he not wear anything to bed but he's asking me to rethink that. In spite of telling me that dressing wasn't a sexual thing for him, one of his strongest (and I think fondest) memory as a young man was having a weekend with a gay friend of his a couple of time. He was dressed under his street clothes going up there and really looking forward to it. Not a sexual thing? Come on! I met him when he was in his late twenties and dressing definitely turned him on.

He is starting to dress again more often and sometime fill his bra. That's ok, but, sometimes I just want to tell him, "Hey! If I wanted a girlfriend, I would have married one." I know that would hurt his feelings and probably impact our relationship negatively for a long time. So, I would never say that. But, I don't know how to deal with this. Should I continue denying the fact that I have needs too, as I have for the last decade?

Letting him drive this doesn't work well. He's dominate in life but wants to be submissive. Won't really let me be dominate when I try. He will ignore things to just make them go away. Several times over the past few months, I've told him I wanted to talk but we never did. I know half of that was my fault too, but he could have brought them up rather than ignoring them.

I'm sliding into other semi-related issues now and would rather not. I just need just help right now with his re-emerging cross dressing. He wants to go by a different name when he's dressed and wants to be submissive to me, and is perhaps a little. But, I don't want to look at him as a female every time he is at home and with me. I want him to enjoy his life and feel free to express himself, yet I know I have the same rights. I am not leaving him. We have been married a long time and for the most part, he has been an exceptional husband and partner. Argh... am I just too much in my own head?