r/crossdressers_wives

I feel like if you're not happy being with a crossdresser, don't settle and grow distaste/have regrets. You will have resentment down the road. Yes I'm a crossdresser.
Reading a lot of your posts saying your partner told you they dressed, years down the road is unfair to you. Let's not act like this is a normal hobby. Even with myself, there's a bit of disgust when I dress. I'm like why am I doing this. I feel like I could ramble on and on about this but not take anymore of your time... if you want to have a convo about it though, feel free to message me.
Anyways, have a good day.

Anyone want to chat

I’m curious about something and would genuinely like to hear from people with experience or interested.

Are there actually (maybe in Sri Lanka) women who are interested in crossdressers as a friend? And even make a girl's group with him.

I’ve noticed something that makes me wonder: I am a girl friend of a crossdressing guy who is supportive and helps with clothes, makeup, styling, dressing up together etc.

But for years he is looking for another girl to join, tells to find another girl, so we can dress up and spend time with another woman who is also interested. I have some insecurities such as will he replace me over a new girl and he keeps saying such things won't happen we are doing this only to have fun. So trusting him.

It sounds like a “three girls hanging out/party” dynamic - dressing up, chatting, drinking, watching movies, having parties, etc.

Is this actually a thing?

For women who are into this, what made you comfortable with it? And for crossdressers who already have supportive girl friend, do you actually look for other women to join this kind of social circle? Have you really already created such circle? If so how is it going?

Would be interested in hearing honest ideas, experiences without any judgements.

I have been with my CD husband for over 3 years now. He showed me pictures of him dressing like a cheerleader, and as a kardashian one year for halloween, then officially told me about a month into our relationship. I was fine with him dressing up and even dressed up with him at times, even went out one day and got matching dresses, but a little over a year ago he tried to sit on my lap while he was dressed up and it made me feel uncomfortable, since then it's been meh I don't want him to stop but I rather tune it out when he does. I can tell he is upset by the change, and I've felt like a bad person despite him telling me I shouldn't feel like a bad person. I told him how him sitting on my lap made me feel uncomfortable, and he apologized and said he shouldn't have done that. He's mentioned a couple times going to drag shows again and going to the drag bar in our city, but I'm worried about running into someone we knew. I know he really wants to do this, and I want to support him as he's supported me, but I can't shake the feeling of it making me uncomfortable.

S/O of a CD here.

A few months ago I found out that my husband has been crossdressing behind my back. Long story short, I wanted to leave him but decided to stay for the sake of our child. He likes to go out and get dressed, then hang out with other CDs.

Ever since finding out I've been different, always keeping my guard up in general, questioning everything that has happened so far, I can't move forward with all the past lies. Sometimes I would prefer he wouldn't go, and everything was back to normal, us being able to speak to each other about anything and everything. We still have conversations but he never brings up the CDing and if I do then he has nothing to say at all.

I've understood that I have my own stigmas around it but reading so many posts on here about CDs chatting with strangers here for validation is so common, sissiness, some who like to be dominated by their spouses, etc. Im afraid I'm not okay with any of this, but it's mainly to do with infidelity that I fear the most. He doesn't share anything with me once he's back from his outings which makes me even more so suspicious.

I'm sick of always being the one to ask and then he makes me feel like I'm being unreasonable with my questions.

Some days I feel I wish I didn't know, I know he'd prefer that. We've been discussing having another child, I'm not so sure now if that would be wise.

Vent or rant or something but I've got to get this off of my chest

I, 30F, and my husband, 30M, have been together for 10+ years now. When we were young and dating he flirted a little with the idea of crossdressing but then nothing happened for years. I thought it was a blip and then over.

Now, in this past year or so, his exploration has exploded to several purchases of lingerie, clothing, sex toys, and so on. It's been overwhelming but I understand that this is something he needs to work through himself and together to understand the extent of it - that is not my problem. My problem is that now we ONLY have intimacy when he is dressed up - and even that we are still NOT having sex. We haven't had sex in 3 months and even that time 3 months ago was essentially a "fine, here you go" sex and nothing like what we have done before.

Granted we've never been very active outside of our honeymoon. Otherwise we really only have sex maybe once every 5-7 months. Which sucks, but I've coped with it...for the most part.

But now that we are exploring this kink more in depth, we are more intimate - but we aren't having sex. We'll make out, we'll talk about fantasies, he might jerk off/I give a BJ or maybe (if I'm lucky) he'll kind of touch me. Still, no actual sex - or, at least, nothing that brings me to orgasm or anything close. I'm so pent up myself, craving physical intimacy so I'll indulge the dresses and lingerie if that gives me some kind of physical attention but I'm also so fed up with being okay with not being considered in the bedroom.

I flirted with him a bit after a couple of drinks the other night and he was finally talking about having sex with me and we started things but he wasn't able to continue past a minute or so due to losing all hardness and interest. I asked if I did anything wrong and he assured me I didn't and that he just wasn't feeling it. Which is fair. But it doesn't sting any less. This is the 2nd time in a row that we've attempted actual sex for that to happen. How can I feel anything but not stung by it.

Trust me, I love him so much. He is truly my best friend and I cannot imagine life without him. But - I want to give up on asking for physical attention (I'm always left anxious, self conscious, and feeling like I'm bending who I am for him) but I also don't want to indulge the dresses and lingerie anymore if that means I'm not being taken care of myself. I also just so desperately crave his masculine side when it comes to sex now and I feel like we're becoming incompatible.

All of this and he keeps talking about a 3-some which I'm inclined to consider cause maybe, just maybe, I'll have a player there that is attentive to me too but that feels like cheating in my head if I'm doing it for the sole reason to get attention from someone else which I don't like. But also I don't know how I will continue the rest of my life like this. I don't want to divorce him but I also don't know if we just become poly or something in that realm? I keep feeling that we both somehow married each other out of love, absolutely, but also much out of convenience.

Have you experienced anything similar? Would you consider a polygamous relationship? Is there anything else I can say to him to help him understand? We've talked about this before but I don't think he's truly understanding how much of a wedge our sex lives are putting in my mind right now and I don't know how to get the wedge out of the way.

One part of me says stay and let things live as they are.

Another part says fight and continue to push him and press him for love.

Another part says open things up and allow myself and him to experience some other fun.

And another part is asking why the hell I'm dealing with this anyways.

I just don't know where to go from here. I'm sorry this is so long I just don't have anyone to talk to about this and I feel so incredibly isolated since a huge factor is his kink that I can't talk to anyone about.

If anyone can help i will really appreciate it.

Also if any women here is ok with roleplay over reddit or any chatting apps please connect.

I am a shy crossdresser, you can be whatever you want.

Hallo ihr Lieben 👋🏻
Ich bin auf der Suche nach Frauen mit denen ich mich austauschen kann, die meine Situation vielleicht auch nachvollziehen können.
Gern auch aus der Sicht des CD selbst, vorwiegend sollte es aber schon um die zweite Beziehungsperson gehen.
Folgendes: Ich habe vor einiger Zeit herausgefunden, dass mein Partner CD ist (längere Story, ich hatte über Wochen ein komisches Gefühl, er meinte immer es sei nichts, irgendwann hat mich mein Bauchgefühl nicht in Ruhe gelassen und ich bin an sein Handy, wodurch ist dann auf seine CD Profile gestoßen bin, ich bin nicht stolz drauf, habe ihn dann zur Rede gestellt, da er Chats hatte, die eindeutig waren und mich zutiefst verletzt haben)
Wir haben die letzten Wochen viel geredet, Ich verurteile ihn rein für den Betrug, das CD ist für mich absolut kein Problem. Wir sind auch allgemein sehr offen was unser Sexleben etc. angeht (wir haben keine offene Beziehung, haben aber gern unteranderem FFM).
Nun hat er aber auch die Bitte geäußert das mit den Chats weiterführen zu dürfen und sich auch jemanden suchen zu dürfen, mit dem er sich mehr oder weniger regelmäßig treffen kann. Ich habe perse nichts dagegen, nach dem Betrug bin ich jedoch noch nicht soweit und ehrlich gesagt auch wenn ich es ihm gern ermöglichen würde habe ich Angst. Angst ihn zu verlieren, Angst davor, dass er merkt dass er das mit uns doch nicht will, bzw dass ihn das nicht so erfüllt wie wir es gern hätten, bzw dass ihn das mit Männern mehr erfüllt (ich weiß dass ich dann daran eh nichts ändern kann aber er meint auch, dass die Angst nicht berechtigt ist, bzw er sich ne Beziehung mit einem Mann nicht vorstellen kann und er mich liebt und das das wichtigste ist, dass er das mit dem CD auch lassen würde, wenn ich doch nicht damit klarkomme oder es nicht will.
Viel Text 😅 Tut mir leid 😅

Könnten die, die mit einem CD zusammen sind/zusammen Leben mit mir ihre Erfahrungen teilen? Vielleicht ging es euch ja ähnlich und könnt mir helfen?

Wie gesagt, ich würde es ihm gern ermöglichen sich so zu entfalten wie er es gern hätte, wir hätten dann auch die Absprache, dass ich mich mit ner Frau treffen dürfte/würde während er sich mit nem Mann trifft, was sich erstmal okay anhört aber meine Angst ist, dass unsere Beziehung vielleicht zu kurz kommt, unser Sexleben abnimmt etc pp

Ich danke euch schon mal meine Lieben 🫶🏻
Falls ihr auch Empfehlungen für andere Seiten, Subreddits, Apps etc. habt nehme ich die auch gern

I have been with my partner, boyfriend for 10 years. I am aware of his background and I accept. We now have a 6 year old son and don't have anyone to watch him. Some of the issues is his hair. When we use hair removal it only last a few days. So need to plan. Looking to see if anyone has advice on hair removal, it's too grey now for laser. He feels he is getting older and looking more like an older man. He is late 40s now. I want to support him and be more understanding to his needs as he is not getting a chance to express himself. He does not want to dress in front of our son. He has lost alot of confidence in the way he feels.

I have been with my partner for 10 years. I am aware of his background and I accept. We now have a 6 year old son and don't have anyone to watch him. Some of the issues is his hair. When we use hair removal it only last a few days. So need to plan. Looking to see if anyone has advice on hair removal, it's too grey now for laser. He feels he is getting older and looking more like an older man. He is late 40s now. I want to support him and be more understanding to his needs as he is not getting a chance to express himself. He does not want to dress in front of our son. He has lost alot of confidence in the way he feels.

I am a straight, married “normal” dude and dad. I love the feeling of satin thongs. I can only speak for me - but it is no deeper than that. Not secretly gay or bi. Don’t want to fully dress as a woman, don’t want to transition, don’t want to be a woman. Why it feels so good and right is just one of those things. It’s really not that deep.

That said - my wife of 30 plus years is a traditional masculine/feminine roles person. She would not dig it at all. I appreciate that and keep it to myself. I don’t push things or take silly chances. If I got caught and had to own it ?better than her thinking I am cheating) - I would. I would always feel that she would see me differently.

As for my part - as I said - feels good - not that deep. And yes - I k is I look ridiculous. If I catch a glimpse of myself in a mirror I have to laugh.

Hope this helps.