r/crossdressers_wives

Hi i have only just found this group. I’m a GF of a CD and have been together for 6 yrs. we have just had our first baby. it’s always been a thing in our relationship. trust has been broken many times after me finding things out or being lied too. The last few years have become easier. He goes to counselling and now just dresses up in his office and i just don’t associate myself with it at all. It’s been hard and i don’t love that he does it. i would rather it not be a thing but i go along with it because it makes him happy and it was becoming an issue in our relationship.
he has recently asked if he can start going out dressed up. Not with me but just with some other CD friends. i don’t know how i feel about this as it feels it takes to a whole other level and i already feel i’ve been stretched to my limits with this topic.
i’ve never spoken to anyone about this and it’s felt quite lonely. just wondered if anyone related to me as sometimes me saying no to things i feel so horrible.

I just found out I was pregnant last week(first pregnancy) which I was really excited about. A couple of days later after finding out, a girl messaged me on FB asking to speak with me about my husband. Mind you, all this he did was after finding out I was pregnant.

First thing I did was ask my husband who she was and what she was going to tell me. He proceeded to tell me that she was selling her underwear on FB Marketplace and he bought it because it’s always been a fetish of his. When he told me this I just giggled and told him that was silly and gave him my undies.

Well, the girl ended up calling me and told me that he bought a bathing suit from her and proceeded to send her photos of him in it. And afterwards she sold him more undies and he kept sending her multiple photos of him in panties(including some of mine). I was SHOCKED and unprepared for that, I was not expecting that at all.

I was very hurt and confused especially because he almost came off like he kept harassing the girl to go with him to get a massage together, to go to sex shop… and she also told me that he wanted to get his p sucked by a man and that he met up with a trans.

My husband was so sorry and he said that he was too embarrassed to tell me. I’m so hurt because I work like a dog trying to provide and I feel like he’s just doesnt use his time wisely because he has flexibility while driving Uber… which is so fucking annoying to me because while I’m working he’s out fulfilling his sexual desires behind my back.

Anyways, its so difficult because I cant see him the same anymore and I’ve lost all trust. I just don’t know how to move on from this, especially because I feel like he ruined what was supposed to be one of the happiest moments of our lives. I love him and I want to support him but it doesn’t turn me on. I think I would be ok if he does this in private and online and not with anyone local. I’m just too afraid of someone exposing him or something.

My self and my CD boyfriend have been more into the idea of me pegging him and eventually doing it while he’s dressed.

Does anyone have any tips for pegging him? We’ve got dildos, strap on, plugs etc but I’ve never done anything like this before!
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Hello, girlfriend of a cross dresser. Been dating for about 15 months. For some background, he has told me he is not trans. But then he turns around and uses the term “my transness” with regularity. I think he tells me he isn’t trans in the moments that he fears losing the relationship, to be honest.

I’ve seen him in women’s clothing probably 15-20 times. I’ve never really been super attracted to it, but I’ve tolerated it, for lack of a better word. He really is a good person and I do care about him.

Well, i went to his place a couple weeks ago and he was in a maxi skirt, makeup, jewelry. Nothing I haven’t seen before. But for reasons I don’t fully understand, I went to the bathroom and closed the door because it was like a Red Alert in my head that day. Alarms going off in my brain. “THIS IS NOT WHAT I WANT!!” screaming in my head.

I’m trying to understand what changed. Did the “new” wear off? Did I truly see him as a woman that day and it didn’t feel right because I’m heterosexual? Did I see him as a man in women’s clothing and it just seemed a bit ridiculous? I’m really trying to figure it out.

Has this happened to anyone else? Like one day you just reached a point where you could not do it anymore? I’m struggling with the idea of ending the relationship because I know he’ll be hurt and I hate that. But I have to do what’s right for me, too.
Advice? Input? Thank you, internet friends.

I was recently introduced to my husbands crossdressing and over the past few weeks I have asked a lot of questions, cried a lot, started to understand his need to do this... I have slowly opened up to seeing his clothes and accessories and a few pictures (not full done up with makeup and a wig yet). I have good days and bad days... I guess I still don't know how this will work out. I am attracted to his masculine presentation and definitely not his feminine one. He would like to be able to dress in his feminine presentation (minor with just a womens thing and sports bra under his clothes to full on fake boobs, wig, makeup, earrings, etc) 70% of the time at home. Can anyone share their journey and how you are able to have a successful relationship and still keep the attraction?

Hello! I’m fairly new to all this but I hope to be able to get some light after sharing my story.

About 3 years ago, as I was pregnant with our first kid, I found a stash of dildos, lingerie and wigs hidden in a closet. I had no idea what to think about it but I waited until my spouse got home and I asked him. He then told me he enjoyed dressing up and that it was something he had done since a very young age. I accepted it and asked for some time to think about it, and eventually asked him to trow it all away if it was something he could live without, he said he was fine and that he didn’t really needed it. I made sure to let him know that I did not want to change him, and if it was something he really wanted we could have deeper conversations and find a middle ground.

Anyways, fast forward to today… I‘m currently pregnant with our second and he is working a very stressful job with a 5-6h commute everyday. In the past 3-4 months our sex life is basically non-existent, I’ve tried to pleasure him but then he would not touch me back. I thought that maybe if he got back into his CD he would relieve some of the stress and be able to be present in bed again, so I told him that I would be fine if he wanted to get back into CD, which he did. But he continued to not have any libido to even touch me, and I few days ago i caught him chatting with someone on Reddit. He first lied saying it was a coworker but I knew it wasn’t, so I waited until next day and asked him to tell me the whole truth, which then he said he was talking about some fantasies that he has but would not tell me more than that. He says he is trying to figure it out himself but I don’t know if I’m being selfish for wanting him to share and talk to me, since we are married and sex is part of it. Since he doesn’t open up to me I can’t say what I’m comfortable with or if I’m willing to try anything because I don’t really know what are these feelings he has. I was also able to see that he is in a community for sissies but because I don’t understand much I’m very lost.

Sorry for the long post but I hope I can get some opinions from people that have been to similar situations. Thank you!

Hello, I am new to this so please be patient if I say something that is inappropriate, I don't mean to. My husband recently came out to me and I have to say, I am not sure what to do with the information. We have been married for 47 years, so I am older than most of the wives posting here. I have to say the ICK factor is very strong with me. This hit me hard as I did not see it coming and it has been going on for a very long time. We have recently moved and he threw out all his "CD stuff" when we made the move (so I wouldn't find it) and now feels that he can't live without it and wants to make it part of his everyday life. His comment is that he would live as a woman 60-70% of the time if possible. I am not sure what to do next. We are seeing a counselor and I hope that helps, but I am not sure if I can do this. It is the betrayal that is bothering me the most, this came out of the blue and hit me like a brick. The deceit has been going on for years and I am not sure I can forgive that. Any information you can give me would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

former gf of a cross-dresser here

I remember being here 2 years ago and seeing mostly other women, but now most comment sections are filled with CDs who seem more obsessed with forcing their kink than hearing from others. What a shame

For wives and SOs only.

We often have CD that post asking for advice on how to bring up the discussion with their wives or other various question. Because this subreddit is for the significant others, these posts are removed with little to no assistance for the poster.

It has been asked if we could do a monthly/weekly pinned thread where CD could pose questions. It was suggested as a feature done in the past. Do you ladies feel this would be a positive addition to this sub?

Thank you for your input!