I dont like it when cis people call us "dolls"
This is a rant but also a bit of an AITA
As the title says i dont like it when cis people call us dolls, i honestly consider it a slur. This came up recently, where a community member (cis) sent out a discord ping about the recent stabbing and ended the message with "stay safe dolls" i sent them i private message telling them in the future that i dont really like them saying doll, they got a lil irate and basically told me that it wasnt a slur so i shouldnt be policeing their launguage. For me it always felt like the "white saviour" archetype but for cis people, i dont like being called an object, its dehumanizing. When ive asked people not to say it before they often default to "well trans people call eachother dolls" and its an ingroup outgroup type of thing for me, same with the f slur or the t slur.
So am i the asshole and what do you guys think? I need further opinions. Srry for any gramar or spelling errors i am very sick and reddit mobile sucks
Edit: hi girls! Thanks for all the good comments, ive calmed down a bit after writing this post and reading your comments, and id like to retract my statement about doll being a slur, its a demeaning word, not a slur. Sorry for the mix up!