u/Narrow_Most_607

I am 1.5 years into a corporate WFH job that I coveted so badly a few years ago. My ultimate goal was to work from home, with this specific company, making my exact salary. Here I am and I am so deeply unhappy I think I am becoming depressed.

I dont believe it is the job itself exactly, but the corporate politics and BS are really starting to get to me, and it is causing issues within my personal life and also my self esteem.

I am a hard worker and high performer. I came onto my team at a point where there really were no shining stars and so I stood out because I was learning quickly and doing more than the bare minimum.

I was on a fast track to promotion and salary increases (of which I have gotten one at 5.5% and was so thankful for). Now, I see why the people here long before me were the way that they were and I am now in their position.

Several new people (that I helped train) were hired after me and of course, all came in eager to jump in and learn and shine. And so they did. Each of them are now promoted above me, despite less experience or knowledge in the industry we work in.

I am now sitting with the colleagues that were here years before me, no longer looking at promotion on the horizon, feeling stuck, and not giving a single hoot anymore.

My company frequently promotes, but if you are old news, you are almost certainly to get left behind. I have seen this in other departments and has gotten so severe, we've lost 5 people from one of our most critical departments in just the last 2 weeks. I see people on other teams who have been stuck for years and I keep thinking about it.

My coworker who was the very last to be hired onto my team is now promoted above me. Above other people that have been here 1+, 2+, 3+ years. Our Glassdoor reviews are riddled with the same complaint over the last 6 months or so.

This was my ideal job for my current position in life and works with my personal life schedule, my income needs, and is not high effort at all. I do have my ultimate real dream job that I am back in school for and will graduate with my degree to begin working in a few years.

Should I jump ship or just wait it out while I finish school? It isnt terrible, but I know that I am going to be exactly where I am for the foreseeable future while I finished my degree.

It would not be so bad if I didnt constantly wonder what I am doing or not doing to be missed up for these promotions. And then feeling no pride in my work because if they dont recognize that I am closing 3x as much as everyone else on my team, why am I working so hard? Then I spiral because I dont care about doing a good job, and it makes me feel worse.

Advice?

As the title says. My boomer grandparent has been attempting to fill my newly purchased home with furniture. I greatly appreciate that they want to help and yes, I do need some furniture.

However, I have repeatedly expressed that I do not want to fill the house just to fill it. It does not need to be complete in the few weeks we have been here. It is incredibly stressful to navigate the things that they are attempting to bring into my house because and I would like them to pause because:

1. They cannot help. I am doing all of the lifting, moving, putting things together, getting things in and out of cars, etc. alone.

2. I do not have the ability to confirm what they are buying and if it will fit. They are taking someones word that a dresser is x feet and then I go to see and measure and it is not.

3. I do not want every inch of my home filled wall to wall with things. I dont want a cabinet to fill with decorative plates, etc. I do not want storage shelves because I literally will not keep lamp shades, decorative pillows, and 10 year old candles just to gather dust in a room.

Well today I am put to work loading an entire bedroom set that I was adamant would not fit in my house into the car, up the porch, into the bedroom, and put together by myself. Then behold, it did not fit. Just like I said.

At this point I was very upset, because I had repeatedly asked them to stop buying things. So I told them again, this is why I asked you to please stop trying to fill the house.

They got incredibly upset, told me I was rude, and said they would just take it all to their house and keep it. So I got the pleasure of disassembling all of it, putting it back into their car, and then feeling like a giant asshole for being honest.

This happens frequently. I have to say the same thing repeatedly and am ignored. Until the exact consequence of what I was trying to tell them happens and then suddenly, they get very hurt by the fact that I then say "I told you so". I am always the bad guy in this scenario of course and I am always left feeling like I should have just shut up and not said anything.