My supervisor was telling our team leader I would be taking over an 11am call and team leader says, “She’s a good girl” ICKKKK. I am almost 45, he is in his 60’s. How is it people still speak about women like this?!
Hi,
I’m considering industrial engineering, but I keep hearing mixed things. Some engineers say IE has fewer jobs and that most of IE-type roles get taken by mechanical engineers or even business majors. I was highly advised against it because of lack of opportunity after graduation. Is that actually true in practice, or is IE still a strong major if I want to go into operations, business, and management, system, consulting later? I was more advised to pursue mechanical engineering for the same roles or Civil engineering as a different path that could also be a good fit based on my interest. I liked IE because I found it as a balance between soft skills and hard skills, moreover I’m more interested towards the management and business roles like supply chain management or operations. So I was wondering if it would be better to purse a bachelor in finance and later a master aswell.
Thank you guys
Thank you,
Reza
I'm a 28F Mechanical Engineer who has been working full time for the past 6 years in Power Generation, and I'm hitting my breaking point. I feel like the only solution for me is to transition to another career entirely and would love some advice on how to do that.
For some context: I was a "gifted child" with very strict parents whose only focus for me my entire childhood was getting good grades, getting into a good college, and getting a good job. I've been studying hard and working hard since I was 12 years old. I went to college 2 years early at the age of 16. Every single after school activity I ever did was an effort to "boost my resume". I had 5 internships in 3 years before graduating. I have never once stopped thinking about productivity and achievement.
When I graduated with my bachelor's I landed an awesome entry level job with Burns & McDonnell and thought I had it made, but quickly realized that because of my upbringing, I was entering the workforce already nearly burnt out and exhausted from constantly learning and constantly working hard without break. This only got worse with my full-time job... People weren't kidding when they said the first few years of being an engineer is like drinking through a firehose with all the new information. It didn't help that the culture in my department discouraged teamwork and encouraged us to never bother anyone with questions, so I felt entirely on my own while navigating the overwhelm of learning everything about this job I'd never done before. I was crying in the bathroom almost every day at this job.
Two and a half years in, my appendix burst. The doctors told me it was likely due to stress causing inflammation in my organs. The 6 weeks of medical leave I took gave me the time and space to relax for the first time in my life, and I realized how unsustainable this path is. I ended up quitting and taking a year off work to focus on myself, healing my body, and figuring out how to do this without it literally killing me.
After a year not working, I ran out of my savings, and decided to apply for jobs again, and now I'm at Kiewit. I thought things would be better here because the culture is so different and so supportive. Everyone is always available to help and answer questions, and I never feel like I have to figure things out alone. I haven't cried at all at this job, so that's a win right! But... I still feel like I have no capacity left for the constant learning. My brain is so tired. Every single day something brand new is thrown at me and I have to start from ground zero again learning all the ins and outs of the procedures. It leaves me no room to work on my hobbies at home (I love reading and writing and making art but my brain can't process anything after everything it has to do at work), and it makes it harder for me to socialize too because I'm just so exhausted by the end of the day. This work is taking my life away from me. I can't do it anymore. I just can't.
So... I've determined what I need is a (practically) mindless job that I can autopilot. Data entry, document control, and scheduling/admin are some things that come to mind. I also saw another Reddit post someone shared of transitioning from engineering to radiology because it's still high paying but not so mentally taxing, but that would require more schooling first. I just can't handle learning new things all the time. I want to learn my job and then repeat the same thing every day without any change. Does anyone have any recommendations on other types of jobs that fit that, that I could easily transition to from Power Generation Mechanical Engineering, without too much of a pay cut? Or are there any other engineering industries that aren't so intense like this?
I recently shifted sectors and got my first job in a startup. My team was rather large and it was all handled by our manager who lived to work. She was a prime example of a workaholic. She started work at 7am and would still be answering emails at 9pm at night. Although very hard working, she was certainly not a confident woman. My biggest red flag should’ve been on the interview day when it was my turn to ask questions and she bumbled her responses. It was almost like I was interviewing her instead.
A 9 hour workday and a strict policy of working 3 days in the office was not making my days at this job any better. I was definitely burning out and the type of work I was doing was mundane. No critical thinking, no strategy, a simple task of being a sheep from the start of the day to the end. During my regular 1-on-1s with my manager, I often asked for her feedback. She always ensured me that I was doing a rather good job. Rarely, did she have any feedback for me, however, any that she ever did, I fully took that onboard as well.
2 months into the job, I had my first performance review done by my manager and our acting HR manager who had hired me. The review was exceptional and they said I was exceeding all expectations. By the time of my second performance review, the original HR manager had returned from her leave. This time they begun saying I was failing my performance review and I was not a good “cultural fit”. I was apparently 2 mins late to work everyday and many more things that suddenly were wrong with me as a person. The review was so brutal and my first such experience that it literally made me cry. The next day, my manager checks in with me, saying that she understands and was thinking of me the entire weekend. She even acknowledged that HR was too cruel (her words). She gave me guidance on coming early and said keep doing what you’re doing.
A couple weeks go by, she acknowledged that I was still doing a good job and was on track until a Friday morning where I was working from home and I was again called into a meeting. I was terminated immediately. Apparently, I wasn’t a good “cultural-fit” and wasn’t good enough for them. No words from my manager. In this whole scenario, I still thought my manager was the good guy.
Cut to a month later, I got a better, high paying and career progressing job. For my referral, I contacted my manager on her private number. She flat-out declined to give me a referral and said only HR can give you any referrals, apparently it was the company policy. To this day, I haven’t been able to figure out how much more improvement I could have made on that measly support job to meet their expectations.
As the title says I am thinking about quitting my job to focus on my music career as a singer and songwriter.
I’ve been working this job since I was 16 and I am 23 now. I’ve been doing shift work for the last three years and it‘s draining me completely. Can‘t really focus on making music after work because I am tired most of the time. And I’ve been telling myself I‘ll quit and make it work for the last 3-4 years but I never do because I earn a decent amount of money for my age and it’s a very secure job.
I “quit” making music a couple of times and told myself I’ll switch to a completely different job or that there are so many artists out there that nobody needs my songs anyways and many other excuses. But the music STILL always found it’s way back to me and it filled me with joy everytime.
And everytime I let somebody listen to my songs I always got positive feedback (like fr because I tend to be very strict with myself and don't trust positive opinions, thinking that I am being lied to)
So my plan is: 1.moving in with my parents until the end of the year to save as much money as possible 2.quitting my job so I can focus on my music for the first 3-4 months and see how it goes 3.moving in with my girlfriend in january.
My girl is moving to the capital city of our country and I could live with her rent free (we both agreed that would be perfectly fine, I paid our rent for the last 2 years).
I am sure that moving away, quitting my job and doing something completely different would benefit me in the long run and I am only 23 so I feel like now is the right time to try things before it‘s too late.
And I also feel like moving to a big city will give me more opportunities and connections.
Should I do it or not ?
A few years ago, I thought salary was everything.
Now?
I’m starting to realize the company itself matters just as much.
Because:
A slightly lower salary in the right company honestly feels better than a high-paying toxic environment.
Curious how others think about this.
What matters more to you now: salary or company quality?
I am not getting along with my work “buddy” at a new company. My question is is it too early for me to raise this with my line manager? I don’t want to look like like I’m trying to start issues. Some context below.
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This buddy is quite integral in my small team and is nice to basically everyone else.
Ive just joined a new company (1.5 months in) and I have been given a buddy who is quite patronising and rude.
For example today, I submitted a piece of work that was slightly wrong and instead of just plainly explaining what was wrong, he continued to make tiny patronising comments. I couldn’t even make out a proper explanation at the end of the conversation and had to ask him to be clear and tell me what I needed to do instead. To be fair we did have a long conversation about it the day before, but the work is completely new to me and my mistake was minor. This also isn’t the first time the patronising has happened.
I’m also basically replacing a girl who left the team who I think was his work best friend. In my second week here he told me, at a social, that “I’ll never be like xxx” and “I can tell you won’t be much fun but you’ll get the work done”. It was said in a joking way but he obviously meant it.
Maybe I’m overreacting but these little things are starting to make me feel bad but I don’t want to tolerate rudeness, even if it is minor. I’m a naturally quiet person, but I want to learn to advocate/speak up for myself.
To all the mommies who stepped away from their careers to focus on raising their children as stay-at-home moms — how do you see this season of your life?
Do you consider it as a temporary pause from work while your kids are still young? Or more like an early retirement where your main focus is simply raising your children until they grow up?
My husband is able to provide for our family, and I’m truly grateful for that. But sometimes I worry about losing myself a little — like my mind isn’t being challenged enough, or that I’m no longer doing something for myself outside motherhood.
At this stage in life, I also find it harder to socialize, reconnect, or build meaningful friendships, and it can feel quite isolating at times.
Would really love to hear how other moms navigate this chapter of life. 🤍
Hi! I’m starting a new upscale restaurant job soon and I don’t know the dress code. i’m a host / server assistant and it’s a nice upscale, fancy restaurant. what do i wear?? what do i do with my hair? shoes?
Howdy everyone! Looking for some advice on something I've been stewing on for the last couple months and feel completely paralyzed on making a decision. I would really appreciate some advice!
I started under a year ago working in digital marketing/customer success for a company that manages a large portfolio of clients. On paper, it’s a good career path and decent pay, but I’m fully confident the biggest source of my stress/anxiety is customer success/account management itself. My first job out of college was in an agency role where I burned out hard after 4 years. I worked in paid media marketing previous to my current role, and that was a cake walk for different reasons.
A couple months back I absorbed 35+ accounts just before I finished onboarding. No ramp up, just immediately absorbed due to coworkers quitting. I was spiraling far more then. Things have slowly gotten slightly more manageable but I'm not sure I can bear the constant meetings, nonstop context switching, customer expectations all day long, and I'm frequently taking work home just to get caught up for tomorrow's meetings. I feel mentally exhausted trying to keep up with everyone while also feeling guilty that I can’t dedicate the level of attention/support to clients that they probably deserve. To be very honest I feel like I've been a different person around friends and family. When I spend time in my hobbies, or with friends and family it is very hard to be present since I'm constantly anxious about the next day. Major case of imposter syndrome.
I still very much enjoy marketing strategy, campaigns, analytics, optimization, etc. What I hate is the agency/client-services side of it. Long term, I think I’d much rather be in-house somewhere focused on one brand/company instead of constantly juggling dozens of external clients.
Right now I feel like I have 3 possible paths:
Part of me thinks this gets easier with time as I learn the platform/products better and eventually “coast” more. But I’m also so mentally drained after work that it’s hard to consistently job search or even feel like myself anymore. Long term I know CS isn't for me.
I have an opportunity for a leasing consultant position that would certainly be much less mentally overwhelming. The thought is it might give me breathing room to recover mentally and focus on finding a better long-term marketing role. Financially it would be very tight/a bit in the red if commissions aren't consistent (worst case I could move back in with family but I'd like to avoid that if possible. Love my fam but don't want to burden if I can help it). I’m mostly terrified this would hurt my career trajectory or make future employers question why I left marketing for something else for 6-12 months (or longer if the job market stays rough). If I even add it to my resume, which I probably wouldn't if it's a short time (less than 12 months).
The company seems to genuinely value me and has very obviously hinted they realistically see me growing quickly. There could eventually be opportunities in property management, corporate roles, maybe even marketing for the company. Part of me wonders if I’d actually be happier in a more people-oriented/hospitality environment. But it’s a major pay cut and feels like stepping backward career-wise with a lot of uncertainty. But the option is there if I end up enjoying it.
This mostly boils down to:
- is quitting for a less stress role the right choice? Too dangerous?
- How damaging would a temporary pivot out of marketing actually look? What if it takes me over a year and I still haven't found anything?
- Am I being overdramatic? I realize this post comes across like I'm looking for validation.. and I suppose I am so maybe I need a reality check.
- Has anyone else left a high-stress client-facing role and been happier for it?
Would really appreciate advice from people who’ve been through something similar. I'm tired of constantly being on the fence!
From now to 2050, humans would keep losing jobs to AI, and so humans would be racing towards helping AI to take jobs from other people:
- (0) Using Large Language Models to take more jobs from other office workers.
- (1) Help build the factories that produce the brain (data centers) and body (Robot) of AI.
- (2) Help (technically or financially) introduce robots to the world, replacing people.
- (3) Help building power plants.
- (4) Help people cope psychologically with this biggest Revolution of human history.
I start a position back in November and things started off good but recently I’ve been struggling to keep up with everything. And more recently I’ve honestly been questioning if im capable of doing a “good job” in my boss’s and coworkers eyes. About 3 months in my boss told me I “no longer need to impress him and I now need to impress my coworkers.” And honestly the past month or so I feel like I’ve been just not been getting it done. At least once a week I get told I forgot to do something or I did something incorrectly. I try giving myself grace but everyone else seems think since I’ve been here for 6 months I’m supposed to know everything by now.
This is my 3rd job in 3.5/4 years so I’m worried it’s too soon to leave but also feel like maybe i’m just not meant to be in this role…
My mother in law and her husband as well as my parents are in a cult where education is looked down on tremendously! My husband and I recently left the cult and we have set our minds to finish our degrees in computer science which has been on and off bc our parents have had the biggest problem with it. They think that education is satanic.
The other day my MIL sent me and my husband a text message to a link that talked about a certification alone in AI can help make 60k in 4 months. She wants us to stop going to college and she doesn’t want me getting my A+ or Net or Sec.
Is this some bullshit??
https://alignment.anthropic.com/2025/anthropic-fellows-program-2026/
I work at a company who has a development rotation program for young grads. I’ve also been a part of a different companies rotational new grad programs or worked at places that had variants of the same. The number one thing that I noticed historically as I have helped with the filtering process is out of touch salary expectations for brand new graduates.
This is for many entry level roles though. Even though things cost a lot more you as a brand new graduate with limited experience are not going to get that 80k salary to start. I keep running into candidates who attend universities big and small asking for 70-90k base salary. Maybe if this was an engineering rotation or in a super high cost of living location but for the majority of the country especially in the south where I’m currently located you aren’t getting that type of starting base pay for most roles.
I’m happy to hear of some exceptions to this but I think a lot of young candidates are shooting themselves in the foot because they see online everyone making six figures so of course a new grad has to make 75k or 80k. The reality? Most new graduates programs for things like claims, underwriting, sales, credit analyst etc are going to pay 50-65k to start. 70-75k is if it’s something super competitive but that is the exception not the norm. So please keep your request reasonable. You’re not getting 80k in Atlanta to come be someone’s phone monkey.
I have been trying to figure out what separates a normal graduate resume from one that actually gets attention.
Most of us have similar backgrounds, maybe a degree, some projects, and a bit of internship experience, so it is hard to know what recruiters use to decide.
I keep hearing about tailoring resumes and making them ATS friendly, but I am not sure how much that really matters at entry level.
It almost feels like small differences decide everything.
For those who recently got hired after graduating, what actually made your resume work
Hi folks! Trying to get some opinions because I have never been more stuck on a decision in my life. I’m 24F BTW.
I am an RC at a great institution. People that live here are always clamoring to get work here. The job isn’t exactly my field of interest but it’s related and my colleagues have connections to people that I do wanna work with. My plan was to work here for another year (2 total) and apply for my PhD this cycle. I’ve gotten good feedback from admissions at this school so I have a shot at getting in, but obviously it’s not guaranteed. I struggle with my boss currently (she’s very busy with other stuff and definitely has me doing more admin work than I had anticipated, which does bother me). She doesn’t really care that I’m applying for a PhD and isn’t making any effort to support it. I love my friends here and I got a boyfriend who I really love, so moving would be hard. I just moved here less than a year ago and I don’t know if I’m ready to go.
An old colleague from grad school (MPH) approached me with a job offer in my home state (halfway across the country). The pay is better (12k better) but it’s not good for the area and I’d probably live in a shitty apartment. The research is more aligned with my interests. My potential boss wants to introduce me to people in our field as well. Moving would be a nightmare and I’d lose all that I’ve built in my first year out of grad school. I also think if I quit then I’m definitely not going to get into the PhD program here.
Any advice on what to do would be great. If I do take the new job I’d move in 2.5 months.
I was recently given a verbal warning by my bosses yesterday for an attitude problem I had the following week and this week. For reference I work in childcare as a toddler teacher.
My boss said I bordering insubordinate behavior these were the interactions that she referred to
- When answering the phone I am using the speaker phone while across the room to communicate with bosses and “yelling” at them
- Using phrases such as “Okay” and “Yes” show a clear lack of interest in communicating with admin while on the phone
-When told a child would not be moved up to other class despite being the eldest in the room was told we lacked “child first” consideration. I explained me and my fellow coworkers offense to the statement and was told I made the same point and the other manger when I expressed disagreement I used the phrase “I believe you are intentionally misunderstanding me.”
-Manger jumped into an a friendly banter moment between I and another coworker where she stated I’ve yelled at her in various situations for being loud during student naps time when i asked what she was referring to she laughed and proceeded to say you do it all the time I responded with the phrase “Don’t lie in front of the saints.” and walked off
When I tried to further discuss and understand their grievances I was told there no more room for excuses and there is no room for discussion.
I’ve been with this company for 2 years and recently received employees of the month ( peer nominated) and month prior had a good employee review with a raise and praised for my communication skills.
My question is
Am I being insubordinate? If I am what’s the being way to move? If I’m not could someone still give me advice on how to handle my job and mangers moving forward?
Hello, people... Could use some guidance here.
For the last 15 years, I have worked for only ONE company. It was a low-skill language based editorial job, but...
-Really good pay, 15-20 lpa
-Remote work
-Full flexibility
Last year, I got terminated and I realized... I am pretty much unemployable. I have learned no other life skill. I have been freelancing for similar companies, making some money here and there, but I need to get into a serious career. I am a mechanical engineer by qualification - but can't get into that now. I need to spend a few months to learn a serious skill, something that will get me a somewhat stable career and some good money, a few lakhs a month in say 5-6 years. I am a hard-worker and quick learner, I am ready to put in the hours and learn something, but... what?
What can I invest my time and energy that will give me a fruitful rewarding long-term career? I am thinking AI.
Where do I start? I am really lost.
Hey guys I'm currently a software engineering graduate I've studied 5 years after my highschool graduation in an engineering university, I speak 3 languages, I have some experience that i gained from previous internships and now I've been searching for a job for the past 10+ months.
So now I don't care about the jobs I apply for. I just need an income to help me out with my life.
Please help me if you have any advice or any job or website that can help me out.