MIL Advice
Please let me know if maybe I’m just overreacting with my feelings and maybe just being “selfish” with my baby! Backstory we go to MIL house on sundays sometimes twice a week.
My MIL has been making me feel just weird here are a few examples
right after birth during the lactation nurse helping me she barged in unannounced with all of her kids as my girlies are completely out and my partner was upset and had them step out
After birth she went and bought a crib , a changing table , a bouncer and now she has bought the same exact swing we have for her own house but it’s very uncomfortable given my baby just cries when we’re over there and hates using any of it (I am grateful and fortunate btw)
When it comes to my baby crying she will not give the baby back to us and attempts to get her to calm down but she truly does not stop unless her dad or I get her sometimes dad can’t even get her to stop , we give her a paci here and there but his mom has literally pushed our hands away when we try to give it to her and then she proceeds to just say she smells your milk that’s why she’s crying she has even asked me to take off my shirt so she can put it on for my scent ..
We went ahead and took our baby to the zoo for the first time and she was super upset and made it a point to say “did he tell you I was so mad you guys didn’t tell me” because we didn’t take her
And final example I am choosing to baptize my baby given my religion and she then proceeded to say I would really rather you not because her religion doesn’t believe in that and that she wouldn’t go to the ceremony or to celebrate .. (not that it matters but all of her kids don’t follow any sort of religion)
Ahhhh!! I hate that I’m starting to build up this type of resentment towards her but I don’t know if it’s just my pp or would anyone else feel some type of way ?! Ty sorry this is long !!! My partner does understand and agree that yes she is extra but he says she doesn’t get to see the baby and I just cant imagine her seeing her more given how extra she is when we do go 😭😭😭😭 I even stopped going these past 3 sundays to avoid being annoyed but I just stay home and worry if my baby is crying or upset