In-laws visiting soon, need some sanity
It might categorise as a rant, sorry.
We have been married for 3 years and every summers my in-laws make it a mandatory thing to visit.
My husband and I we both are not are not at much ease whenever they visit. Its like having guests over at home. They treat our home as an airbnb with cook & help available.
My brother in-law also accompanies them, he is an adult and very entitled. Expects me to “pamper” him as his mother does, like bringing snacks for him from office. Doesn’t say it directly but has complained to my MIL before, when I didn’t order him cake on some random occasion once last year. My MIL justifies this behaviour saying he’s the youngest child so needs some love always.
Anyways, when they come-
They occupy our living room all day. I cannot step out of my room because actually there’s no room for me to sit.
My husband pays for tickets, expenses, any short trips they want to take, everything. I don’t like it but I don’t interfere much there.
I work from home so it becomes extremely disturbing because of which I go to a coworking space. Which costs me a lot but its okay.
They skip meals so are constantly cooking something or the other in kitchen & the moment I am home, its expected out of me to help in the kitchen. I can cook for 1-2 people but not for 5 adults.
I need someone to tell me please how can I politely establish these boundaries and tell them to respect my space. Keep the kitchen clean if you use it, and help with chores. Or give me something to keep me sane during this time, some days I just don’t feel like returning home.