20F | Looking for Marriage
Salam! :)
I also wanna clarify that u/Conscious_Phrase_634 and I are two different people.
I'm 20, Ethiopian, 5’3, Sunni, and currently living in North America. I'm finishing my prerequisites right now and working toward becoming an ultrasound tech, inshaAllah. I'm hoping to get married within the next 1–2 years. I've never been married and don't have children.
A little about my personality:
I'm pretty extroverted, spontaneous, and social. I love being around people, making plans with my friends, trying random activities, and picking up new hobbies just because they seem fun. I'm also pretty adventurous and love being outdoors, especially going to the beach. But I'm definitely not someone who needs to be out all the time—I can happily spend a whole day at home watching shows too.
I'm also a huge cat person 🐈, so having someone who likes cats would definitely be a plus.
One of the biggest things about me is that I love to have fun with the people I'm close to. I joke around a lot and can be pretty playful, so I'd want a husband who enjoys that side of me and can give the same energy back. At the same time, I want us to be able to have mature conversations, communicate openly, and be there for each other when things get serious.
I also really want to travel more. I'd love to explore different places, try new things, and have a spouse who's excited to experience life together rather than being afraid of spontaneous plans.
Deen is important to me:
I'm Sunni, I pray and fast, and I want my deen to continue growing throughout my life. I'm looking for someone who is consistent with his prayers, attends Jumu'ah, and genuinely wants to become a better Muslim.
I've stayed away from zina, alcohol, drugs, and smoking, and I'm looking for someone with similar values. I'm also only interested in a monogamous marriage and would not be open to polygamy.
What I hope marriage looks like:
For me, marriage isn't just about finding someone who checks the right boxes. I want a best-friend type of relationship where there's a lot of love, loyalty, respect, and genuine friendship.
I want us to be able to support each other's goals while still having our own personalities and interests. I want a peaceful home where we both feel safe, appreciated, and cared for, but also one where there's plenty of laughter and fun.
I do want children, inshaAllah, but I'd ideally like us to have some time together as a married couple before having them. I want us to build our relationship and enjoy being husband and wife first.
Who I think I'd be compatible with:
I'm looking for someone around 21–24, living in the U.S., Canada or U.K, practicing Sunni, emotionally mature, honest, loyal, and financially responsible or actively working toward stability.
I'm attracted to someone who takes care of himself and stays active. I don't necessarily need someone who lives at the gym, but being active, athletic, or outdoorsy is definitely a plus.
I'm open to all ethnicities and backgrounds. The important thing is that you're genuinely open to marrying outside of your ethnicity and that your family would also be supportive of that.
Personality-wise, I think I'd be happiest with someone who's funny, social, adventurous, affectionate, and open-minded. Someone who enjoys going out and trying things but can also appreciate a quiet night at home. Basically, I want someone who actually enjoys doing life together.
I'm also looking for someone who wants to build a marriage where both people encourage each other, grow together in their deen, and genuinely enjoy each other's company.
If you think we'd be compatible, feel free to send me an introduction about yourself and we can see where things go, inshaAllah. I'd appreciate an introduction with enough information for me to get a sense of who you are.