u/Necessary_Rub9503

I do need to preface this by saying I am on the spectrum, so I have a very hard time distinguishing whether I am in the right or wrong. My partner also has a history of depression, anxiety, BPD, and OCD, and general anxiety. They are medicated; however I am questioning if they are regularly taking said medications because of the side effects.

I've been seriously considering breaking up with my current partner. I feel very conflicted if I'm just going through an episode of depression and psychosis or if what I'm feeling is valid. I'm pretty much always there for my partner, physically and emotionally. Whether it's coming over to their place to comfort them, making them food, getting them gifts even though I'm broke, calling them to sleep, cleaning their messes, and even doing parts of their stay-at-home job for them when they just don't want to do it.

(I know these might be bare minimum things, but I am someone who's energy is replenished by being alone and left to do my own thing. Or hell, even just sitting in silence with somebody while we do our own things. I have literally mentioned this in conversation before, only to be met with anger, for they said they felt as if I didn't want to be around them.)

At first, I was pretty happy doing these things even if I was a bit too mentally drained to. But then these things slowly started feeling mandatory, and now the only way I'm able to get time to myself is if I am sick, and even then I am bombarded with text messages I am expected to answer within a 5 minute period. If I'm not in the mood to do even one of those previously listed things, I'll be met with passive aggressive, and borderline guilt-trippy responses such as an "oh...okay...", or just a general drop in happiness and energy. I've even been met with this response every time I've hung out with someone else. Anytime I try to initiate any sort of serious conversation about this they just get uncomfortable and try to change the subject, only ever wanting to communicate/argue over text, even though I have told them multiple times I find arguing over text to be extremely unproductive and unhealthy.

About a day ago, I had told them I wasn't really in the mood for any sort of sexual talk, and I was getting a bit uncomfortable when they were talking to me sexually. They did respect my boundaries, but I was met with the same drop in energy as usual. We've both agreed to wait until we move in together to have sex, but I'm really nervous that if I keep being passive with their behavior I'm going to end up in a worse situation than I am now.

I'm starting to feel as if I'm trapped, I literally only have a few friends who still talk to me (and because of this relationship I haven't hung out with them in over a year) and some online acquaintances. I've been considering leaving, but I really adore their parents (who treat me better than my actual ones), and their cats, who I genuinely see as my babies.

Sorry if this isn't well written or confusing in any way, I just wanted both advice and an excuse to vent lol. This most likely won't get a lot of responses but I'm happy to elaborate on anything or answer questions.

Hello!! I'm pretty new to Reddit so I apologize if this is the wrong place to be asking. Recently I have been developing my own dating sim, but I've been having trouble trying to get every scenario's outcome written down solely on a google doc. Is there any other apps, websites, and/or software you'd recommend? Sorry if this is worded incorrectly, I'm not the best at descriptions.