
"He was a father, not a judge" — Why God sometimes lets us learn from painful reality.Saint John Chrysostom.
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I was recently reading a commentary on the Parable of the Prodigal Son (and Jeremiah 2:19), and this specific perspective really hit home for me:
"When God does not convince us through His word, He allows us to be taught by the reality of things... He allows them to be taught by the events themselves, so as to win them back once more."
Sometimes we get so stubborn or insensitive to gentle advice, warning, or spiritual guidance that the only way we truly learn is by experiencing the consequences of our own choices. God doesn't allow us to wander off or go through hardship out of malice or punishment for its own sake, but out of patience and pedagogy—so that through experience, we realize what we lost and voluntarily choose to return.
And the most beautiful part of the story is the father’s reaction upon the son’s return:
"His father held no grudge against him, but received him with open arms. Why? Because he was a father, not a judge."
It's a powerful reminder that no matter how far we stray or how hard the lessons of life get, God’s ultimate goal isn't to condemn us, but to welcome us back home.
What are your thoughts on this? Have you ever had a time in your life where you had to "learn from reality" the hard way before recognizing God's grace?