AIO? Considering cancelling all future riding lessons as riding instructor is making me feel uneasy
EDIT: wow thank you for the award!! I’ve never received one before, made me feel a bit better about this situation!
I (early 20sF) recently got back into horse riding and arranged for a group lesson. I was pointed in the direction of a certain equestrian centre , which was both cheap and highly rated. Horse riding isn’t cheap so this seemed ideal. I arranged to do one group lesson to try it out, as I’d never been to this specific equestrian centre before.
I turn up at the stables, all went well. The instructor (late 40sM) was very complementary towards me and made a special effort with me. I thought this was lovely, as I was nervous from being out of riding for so long. The instructor made a comment about me needing some private/individual sessions to work on my form. I said that sounded fine.
I had the instructors number as I’d been messaging him to arrange the lesson.
I messaged the instructor after the lesson thanking him for the session and stating that I will be there for the next lesson. This is where things get weird.
The instructor was messaging me with useful advice regarding getting back into riding after a long break, but also complimenting my looks, asking personal questions and making reference to the fact he was “flirting”, his words not mine. He was being very careful with what he was saying, which he kept making mention to. Saying he didn’t wanna offend me. He mentioned the private lessons again, I asked for the price. Much more expensive than group lessons so I asked if we could wait until I’m paid. He then offered to give me a free private lesson as there was “something about me”.
The compliments were one thing, but this has made me feel uneasy. I don’t want to take him up on this offer as I feel like he will expect sex in exchange for these lessons and he also has my address from me signing up there and filling out a form. I have been SAd in the past and am very wary of men, but am aware this can sometimes make me paranoid and irrational. He is brilliant at his job and extremely reasonably priced, but something feels off. AIO or should I cancel future lessons?