u/Neolance34

Anyone else here, absolutely done with people being insensitive? This can range from the milder end of being taken for granted as the “perma single” (they don’t like it if I use FA) by being there because they’re having a fight with their partner, to the expected “a relationship will come when you stop looking for it.” Well thanks Susan! I’m sure I’ll get a job when I stop applying for them too right?!

But the worst. The absolute fucking worst… is when they start gloating about their successes. As I’ve said before when they say either “I have no idea what I’d do without my partner! It’s nice to know someone cares for me at my best and worst.” Or the flipside “god… it was so nice getting cracked (laid). Why didn’t I do this before after the breakup?” Good for you in both circumstances. My follow up quote is usually along the lines (if I don’t get up and just leave) is “we should all be so lucky.” The follow up is usually “why are you so goddamn negative all the time?” And asking them why they’re so goddamn insensitive makes me the bad guy.

It also doesn’t help that they pull the “you were in a relationship before once!” Argument. That was not a relationship. That was abuse. That was me being so desperate for an iota of what I thought was affection, to become a victim of repeated, consistent abuse. Some people may say that this doesn’t technically count as being FA but I beg to differ. An abusive relationship is worse, because you come out of it, even worse than when you went in. It’s not love you get. It’s feigned affection, followed by abuse, meant to destroy your spirit.

The insensitivity of people, is the worst part about being FA. Friends can somewhat help combat the loneliness if you’re lucky. Work or exercise can temporarily suppress (fill is the wrong word here since voids can’t be filled) the void. But there’s little you can do to escape the banality of insensitivity.

Hey everyone! I’m Neo. I also go by G, G man and a myriad of other nicknames beginning with G. If there’s a nickname you have that works with G? Odds are I’ve heard it before.

If I’m gonna be honest? This terrifies me. I was in an abusive relationship last time so I have little idea of what to really look for or expect. This also makes me incredibly socially anxious so I apologise for anyone attempting to message me. I might either respond immediately or you might get a response in 24 hours.

About me (physically): I’m 27 years old, darker skinned, pudgy but trying to lose weight and hair growth that would rival Chewbacca from Star Wars. I am also Australian. Born and raised.

About me (interests): I am a huge Star Wars fan. I possess a few (3 double bladed, 1 short blade and 1 medium length) lightsabers. Almost all of which are duelling grade. I am also a huge Pokémon nerd as well. Outside of the immediately nerdy realm, I am also an avid film watcher. I love a good psychological thriller film. I also play a few instruments. I play cello, didgeridoo, piano, bass guitar and I sing. Mostly jazz as I was a former jazz singer in a band. And yes, cringe as it is, I have tried the “you like jazz?” Line from Bee movie unironically.

What I’m looking for (WILF)

Any woman who is somewhere on the spectrum of nerdy.

Preferably between the ages of 24-34. These ages aren’t hard limits, but I may struggle to relate with individuals past the ages above.

Appearance wise I truthfully don’t know. I personally am not too fussed if we have a very good connection. However, anyone with a softer or for want of a better word, smoother voice will more likely pique my interest more.

Can be understanding if messages can alternate between consistent and once every 24 hours because I overthink messages I send.

Thank you for bearing with me.