Failing? Weaning? MENTY B
Hello all, I’m a first time mom to a now 11 month old (I’m so emotional about this, but moving on). Before I dive into my dilemma I fear some background may help.
- I exclusively breastfeed and nurse to sleep
- I cosleep/bedshare
- Every nap is contact and we play in our king size bed
- Every bedtime is a cuddle to sleep
- Baby has been teething since 2 months and has had teeth since 3 with nonstop progression since then
- Baby does not drool or have any typical teething signs aside from crankiness
My baby has basically always been a late riser, she used to sleep from about 9:30/10pm-9:30/10am. And with teething and sleep regression sneaking out and having me time was difficult but then it always settled, well not for about a month now. In addition I feel like she’s fighting naps but IS SO TIRED ( blood shot eyes, cranky, wants to sleep and takes short naps or a long one it varies). I used to give her 5 minutes to be fussy and she’d fall back asleep, but as of recent she goes absolutely panicked. I’m talking screaming, hair and body soaked in sweat and flushed cheeks. (It only takes about a minute for that to happen, and she doesn’t settle)
She also doesn’t nurse the whole time like she used to all night or even during naps. She pulls off and rolls to her back but then always inchworms back for cuddles. At night she rolls around and climbs over me like crazy and all she wants is me to lay her on my chest and hold her and she knocks out BUT I cannot put her down or tie after midnight when I finally get to sneak out.
My partner said I should start putting her in the crib because this isn’t healthy for us and I’m creating bad habits. And I broke down.
I was not prepared to stop the cuddles and I don’t think she is either, I feel like I’m harming her sleep and creating bad habits. I don’t know if this is only happening because she’s going through a massive development leap and teething ( I do see another tooth that has poked through) or if I did something wrong. She’s also been standing and trying to walk and it’s just been so much lately.
I’m at a loss at what to do (I don’t believe in CIO). I’m tired, baby is tired. And as I type this my sweet baby is laying on my chest holding me tight. Please advise, is this normal, any tips tricks, stories of your own, all is helpful.
Thank you for reading this far 💗