Coming out - Round 2 🌈
Hi fellow late bloomer gals 💖
I’m in my mid 30s and sort of coming out for the second time now after taking a break from dating for many years to work on (and be honest with) myself. I don’t have any queer friends / community yet, and I haven’t been in a relationship with a woman before.
I know now that I’m not interested in dating men (and probably never really was) but feel really overwhelmed and nervous thinking about trying to find queer community and trying to date.
I don’t really know where to begin and I’m kind of terrified I won’t be accepted because of my lack of experience (for some context, I’m coming out for the second time because the first time went terribly - including other queer people telling me I’m not really queer because I’ve dated men before, and telling me that I’m pretending to be attracted to women in order to be more attractive to men 💔).
It’s really helped me to read your posts here over the last couple of years, and I’ve been really inspired by the bravery of so many of you 💖. I know I need to put myself out there and start living my truth. I’ve spent so long being scared and I think I just need to try to take the leap again.
I’m wondering if anybody has advice about how they navigated finding / building queer community and starting to date women. If anybody has experience with doing this in Melbourne, I would love to hear Melbourne-specific advice too!