Found Viagra in partners wash bag, yet only has sex together once in a year as he never wanted it
Please can I get advice. Boyfriend of 3 years, both 50, do not live together. He stopped sex about a year ago, I assumed stressful job but said to him it was making me feel lonely, unloved and to be fair he did try small things like putting his arm around me. I felt myself getting lower and lower from him not showing me physically closeness and wondered if he might be getting it from elsewhere as he started a new job 2 years ago in a big company. I only see him at weekends. He told me I need to stop talking about it as it puts him off so I tried to shut up about how I was feeling. Two days ago I went into his washbag, first time ever and found a packet of viagra and another product to do the same thing, both had one pill missing from each. I didnt mention id found them and later in the day asked if he'd ever used them and if was having trouble and im there to support him he denied and said what would I need those for, so I left it knowing he was lying. Later in the day I knew he was going away with work staying in a hotel, I knew the wash bag was going with him...my mind was going crazy so I confronted him saying id found them, he shouted at me to " fu#k off and get out his house for going through his wash bag and how he can't trust me now"...he never told me why he had them he just told me to leave his house and got so mad. Please can someone offer advice if im seriously in the wrong as I feel so bad, ive never looked through his phone or anywhere in his house I just went through his wash bag to see if condoms were in there as knew he was going away and wasn't having sex with me but we did use condoms, I guess if I knew one was missing in a few weeks I know he'd been cheating. Surely a year of no sex anyone would start to think something was going on. ?