AITAH for knowingly skipping my boyfriend's graduation
Hey Reddit, this is my first ever post, and I love to read stories on here. I just fell into a little situation and wanted to make a post since I am really bothered about what is going on. For a little context, my boyfriend and I go to community college, and we both graduated in the same year of high school. I finished my associate's degree a semester early and decided I did not want to go to my graduation and just pick up my diploma from my school. My mom was a little sad about that, but I told her it does not feel like a big deal to me since I did not go to a prominent college, I don't care about the degree I have since I chose a different career path at this point, and I do not want to sit through hours long of a ceremony.
My boyfriend is graduating, and it happens to be at the same time I am on a solo trip. I have planned this out-of-state trip since December, and it is now May. I constantly asked him to let me know his information, and I will gladly come back for his graduation since I am only a couple of hours away. The graduation date changed from Friday to Thursday (when I am writing this). Friday, I was supposed to drive back home, and so I was planning to go to his graduation later that day, but now, since it is a day early, I will drive back home, then back to my Airbnb in the state I am visiting. We talked about it before I left. I told him on and on how proud I am of him, sent him huge sweet paragraphs, and told him it is no big deal to drive back and see you. He told me he didn't get a ticket for me, only his family members, since I was going to be away and didn't think I'd want to come back because I have had this trip planned for a long time, and I just got a new job and have been insanely stressed out, so he was happy for me to have time away and relax.
Here is the problem. I woke up in the middle of the night and saw a text from my boyfriend saying that his mom and her sister were throwing shade at me and saying I was weird for going on a trip alone and missing his graduation. I was very shocked because I thought his mom and I had a good relationship. I really love her, and she is very sweet and kind and has been nothing but nice. This really bothered me cause I don't think she knows the full story. My boyfriend is very vague and quiet, and I will come back with updates because that is all he texted me last night, with no details, and he is still asleep right now. Mind you, he does not even want to go to his own graduation; his mom is essentially making him, but he does not want to go for the same reasons as I, except he is proud of his degree, but a ceremony just does not matter to him. If he had more of a choice, he would have just picked up a diploma from school, but he is a great son, so he will do it even if he does not want to. At this point, I couldn't even go without a ticket, but I asked if it was going to be livestreamed or something. Am I the asshole for not going to my boyfriend's graduation?