[26M] How Do People Truly Accept Their Partner’s Sexual Experiences?
I [26M] have never dated before and I’m genuinely curious how other people think about virginity and past relationships.
I’ve spent most of my life focused on school/career and sacrificed a lot socially to get where I am. Most people would probably consider me successful in terms of career and status, but I never really explored dating seriously.
Recently I met a girl who honestly feels almost perfect to me in every way. The issue is that she’s not a virgin, and from what I understand, she had sex during a really emotionally unstable period of her life with a guy she only knew for about a month.
I know a lot of people will say “the past is the past,” and logically I understand that. But emotionally, I’m struggling more than I expected. I think part of me always associated intimacy with something extremely meaningful and long-term, especially because I personally waited this long and never treated it casually.
What’s difficult for me is not even jealousy of the specific guy, but more the feeling of:
“How can someone who meant so little end up sharing something that feels so important to me?”
I’m genuinely trying to understand different perspectives here, not judge anyone. Have other people struggled with this before? If so, how did you process it?