Behavior issues meeting help needed
I’ve got a bit of a “one bad apple spoils the bunch” issue happening. All the girls in my troop get along so well and are so kind and friendly to each other…except for my co-leader’s daughter. She isn’t exactly a bully, but she’s not often a nice kid either. She is rude to me, troop members and even her own mother, never willing to help, often won’t participate, and spends a lot of our precious meeting time pulling focus to herself with her terrible behavior. It’s gotten bad enough that I have a girl who wants to quit the troop over one mean girl.
Mom is aware of the behavior issues but doesn’t do a whole lot to discourage or correct her. I’m sure is a stress point for her, but I’ve hit a point where I can’t keep letting this negatively impact the troop members.
If I try to deal with her behavior the way I would any other girl, she just goes whining to mom who doesn’t make her follow through with what I’ve asked. Obviously we can’t really punish girls but I typically ask girls to sit out until they’re ready to participate with appropriate behavior or apologize if they have wronged someone, nothing wild.
I talked with my council rep and she suggested a meeting to address behavior concerns and gave me some resources, but I’m also curious what has worked for your troop when you’ve had issues with a single girl. Our next meeting I plan on asking the girls to make something like a kindness contract where they make rules about how to treat each other, and do the activity where you crumple paper and talk about how you can’t always undo bad actions. I see a million ideas about what to do online, but what has actually worked for your troop? Other behavior management strategies that might work besides separating her from mom?
We’re a troop of about 25 with girls ranging from K to 6th grade this fall. TIA!!