u/NightSong897

Being a pacifist is not for the weak oh my god..

To basically set the scene I nicely asked a boy in a nice way of “f— off” by saying “hey (name) can you please go I don’t want to talk to you” and for context whenever he is near me he always talks about how bad his Homelife is and any trauma he has.

So I literally have been feeling like a trauma dumping ground to this kid. He’s also 15-16 in high school, so how my friends call it a “5 year old temper tantrum” about not being able to be near me or talk to me, basically being mad I said “no” and rejected him.

Mind you I’m not his friend, I never was. But this guy keeps following me around which I’m calling “harassment” because him talking about his struggles is also triggering me. Because he saying it very detailed.

He fought my friend who was defending me and knows I don’t do violence, which is why he didn’t physically fight him but called out all his actions. How he’s entitled to being in my space, never taking my no’s, and doesn’t care if I’m uncomfortable.

I thank my friend after it, but when I walked away to go to class I got a feeling to go back. Which is where I saw a fight break out, my friend didn’t start the fight being physical the boy did. He threw a chair and a metal water bottle at my friend, which my friend returned with a punch in the face which I did lecture him about punching after.

But the worst part is that his girlfriend who wasn’t even involved, has been harassing me ever since, and is even trying to spread rumours about me. Thankfully most of the school knows I don’t do violence and I basically keep to myself. I am also not aggressive towards anyone even if they’re mean to me, like I am neutral as it gets.

So thankfully most of the school knows she’s lying, plus her 20 ex’s (yes I know that’s a lot, but there’s probably more ex’s I don’t know about..) one of her ex’s came up to me and APOLOGIZED FOR HER, I told him “no. Dont apologize for her, it’s not your burden” I know the kid because he is a people pleaser which in my opinion those types of people are more likely to be taken advantage of.

So uh.. I guess that week really tested me as a pacifist.. and I guess the rest of the month since she is going to milk this dry, like she did my other friend.

I am an anarchist, but I’m also a pacifist plus and herbalist in training. I am unsure if I can be a pacifist and an anarchist at the same time.

I hate the government and even the leader of my own country, I don’t like the systems like the healthcare system and so many others.

But I also don’t like violence and I always try to find a solution that has no violence.

Any advice?

I am an anarchist, but I’m also a pacifist plus and herbalist in training. I am unsure if I can be a pacifist and an anarchist at the same time.

I hate the government and even the leader of my own country, I don’t like the systems like the healthcare system and so many others.

But I also don’t like violence and I always try to find a solution that has no violence.

Any advice?

It sure if this is a weird question, but I am noticing that I switch from Left Handed to Right Handed and other times I am both handed.

Not sure if it’s my DID, or it’s just because I am both handed. Like I mean I am unable to write with my left but rare days I am able to write with my left. I commonly eat with my left but I eat with my right.

But do people with DID also just switch handed, or is it normal for anyone?

Hi I have an absent father who is Métis, but my mom is French Canadian.

I want to learn about my heritage, because it feels like it’s a part of me (which it is you cant erase something that’s in your blood).

But no matter how many times I try to go to spaces to learn more, and actually try and find myself my own mom refuses it and dismisses my heritage and is just flat out racist.

I am actively trying to find myself and it just feels like she’s ignoring it. I feel at peace when I was preparing Sage with the indigenous support worker in my school, and I loved learning about the culture and the history.

I love all cultures and have respect, but there is this feeling like I am being tugged since I was younger. Even before my mom just dropped that my dad is First Nation but the thing is, is that she keeps calling many different things which would confuse me. She called him a “Indian” “Métis” “First Nation” “indigenous” and a few racist comments and terms that I am not saying.

She also says that he’s “crazy” because he has schizophrenia, and when I tell her I don’t feel alone in my body and I feel like I am more then one person she also insults me like my dad. Which totally doesn’t hurt to be ripped apart by your own mother🥲

I am basically in a battlefield of trying to learn about my heritage, and finding where I belong because I am in between Métis and French culture. I love both because I can’t ignore one part of me, so I am unsure if it would disrespectful if I were to “merge”.

But yea any advice would be loved, because I literally feel trapped when not able to find myself.

I want to first say that my father is Métis and has never been in my life, for reasons I don’t think I can say openly online. But my mom’s side of the family is French Canadian, my great grandmother came from France and I am pretty sure I am somewhere between 4-5 generations from her.

I am also very open on learning about my heritage because I feel a pull towards it even before I learned about my heritage. I also respect all cultures and religions, and open to learn more I just feel more like home with my heritage.

But I want to kinda talk about Tyler catastrophe, he obviously has a para social relationship with Wilbur. But I want to first talk about him being two spirited, and his beadwork and allegedly having heritage. I don’t want to say he is faking or pretending, but I can’t shake that feeling off.

The amount of money he is charging for the beadwork, and that his product is clearly used and low quality. It rubs me the wrong way, because it feels like he is using the culture like how he did with his allegedly family tree of him having ties with history figures which were lies.

Again I am unsure if what I am feeling is right but I can’t shake it off, I just want to bring my opinion out there and see if anyone else feels he is using cultures or anything to get attention.

Every year once spring comes around Mosquitoes show up and bite me, I HATE THEM like my skin is already itchy as it is. Now I have little pests biting me during the night, and day.

IT IS SO ANNOYING!

Any advice how what to do?