AITA for telling my fiancé I don't want his ex-girlfriend at our wedding even though they're "still friends"?
I (28F) have been engaged to my fiancé "Jake" (30M) for about a year. We're getting married in three months. Jake dated a woman named "Megan" (29F) for about four years before we met. They broke up about three years ago. They've remained friends and I've always tried to be cool about it.
She's come to a few group hangouts and I've been polite. She's always been nice enough to me, but it feels weird knowing he used to be in love with her. I trust Jake, but I just don't love having her around.
When we were making the guest list, I noticed Megan wasn't on it. I assumed Jake had left her off for obvious reasons. But last week he told me he wants to invite her. He said she's "still a good friend" and it's "important to him" that she be there.
I told him I'm really not comfortable with that. I said I don't want his ex-girlfriend at our wedding. It's supposed to be about us, and having her there would just make me feel weird and self-conscious. I asked him to please respect my feelings on this one.
He got annoyed and said I was being jealous and insecure. He said if I trusted him, this wouldn't be a problem. He said he's not going to cut out a friend just because he used to date her.
I told him I wasn't asking him to cut her out of his life forever. I'm just asking for one day—our wedding day—where she's not there. He said that was "controlling" and "unreasonable."
We've been arguing about this for days. He says he won't uninvite her. I told him if she comes, I won't feel comfortable and it'll be a cloud over my whole wedding day. He says that's my problem to deal with.
AITA?