When i warn about extremism the post gets more upvotes than the volume of ignorant comments, despite those comments being the majority.
This clearly shows how the internet is full of loud Ignoramuses.
I grew up very religious, at least relative to my countries standards.
The most religious friends i have legitimately said prior to meeting me i have a light on me that shows my character and i only seem to be lacking professional education line Hifz or Arabic Islamic studies.
(Side note; of course this is sad to hear, considering the following)
I was taught to read arabic and good character but when it came to social boundaries, especially to women, it was way too lose.
Alhamduillah i knew to protect myself from Zina but i had many close friendships to women till i finished highschool, some teachers even shipping me with some girls.
You also should know, i did take the religion serious, i just thought if im not sexual and more distant to girls, no touching and meeting up outside of school, would be just fine, not even haram, since im around them all day anyways.
Now i want to study the religion seriously as im honestly really gifted intellectually and i believe i could help our community but i have some anxiety that my reputation will hinder any support i could give.
Its genuinely frustrating to start realizing how wrong such friendships are once youre mature enough to feel jealousy yourself. Legit i thought „wait, if i wouldnt want my wife to do this, i never should myself“
I really had this kind of feminism in my heart, simply because i 1. wasnt taught otherwise explicitly, 2. relied on my distance from Zina
Btw, whats even more sick is that many or most others actually openly took part in some form in Zina, which was a reason for me to befriend girls that didnt. They openly had first relationships, nothing sexual of course i hope, but too much for it to be halal anyways. This is ironically used to be only with people that have „halal friendships“
Im really ashamed this is my history and aside from a community, i even dont know how to explain this to my wife, once i get married